Like I have said many times before, learning about the law of attraction can feel like a blessing and curse. This information was hands-down the most pivotal in transforming my own life.<\/p>\n
But, once our mind gets a hold of the teachings, there can be a tendency to totally overanalyze how to ‘do’ it right. We may begin to obsess over our emotional state and freak out about every bad mood, blah day and negative train of thought. We feel a lot of pressure to ‘get happy.’ We have various emotions and we don’t know what to do with them.<\/p>\n
The role of action in making things happen from a law of attraction perspective is very, very different than the perspective most of us have been ingrained with, in that our energy is the primary determinant of our experience, and any action we take should be in alignment with that high-vibing energy and feel good, right and light.<\/p>\n
The more traditional view holds it as the key tenet. You gotta ‘make shit happen.’ You have to work hard. You need to have a plan, a strategy. You must try to control and force to ensure your desired result. All the hard work is what actually makes you deserving of getting what you want.<\/p>\n
And because these two ‘schools of thought’ are so diametrically opposed to one another, and the latter is so deeply ingrained, adopting the former can be a bit slow-going. It may make sense to us on some level, but as for going full-bore, probably not.<\/p>\n
This post was inspired by a comment I saw on another blog. I thought it covered a lot of stuff that many people could relate to, and I personally related a lot because of some energies and changes I have been experiencing lately, so I wanted to share my thoughts. I reached out to the person asking if I could use her comment in the post and she said I could.<\/p>\n
Lovely lady said…<\/p>\n
I understand intellectually how to apply this stuff. I get that there is some sort of emotion I\u2019m not letting out. But what do you do if you don\u2019t feel anything?<\/em><\/p>\n I rarely feel angry anymore. I\u2019m very familiar with anger and if I feel it come up, I do whatever I can to let it out so I can move on. But what about that \u201cmeh\u201d or \u201cblah\u201d or whatever you want to call it feeling?<\/em><\/p>\n Is there a cycle of doom involving the void? It seems like no matter what I do, I always fall right back into this feeling of not wanting to do anything.<\/em><\/p>\n It\u2019s like I don\u2019t give a crap if I\u2019m broke and in debt for the rest of my life. I know intellectually that isn\u2019t true, so why do I keep coming back to this place? Do all of the emotions along the ladder have potential to become stuck emotions?<\/em><\/p>\n How am I supposed to get rid of this? I get how you release anger, but how do you release \u201cnothingness\u201d? I try to allow the feelings to the best of my ability, but it\u2019s hard to sit around doing nothing (which is what I WANT to do right now) when you have a job, a child, a husband, bills. I guess my question is: How do you ALLOW the void when you have to continue living your life, yet all you want to do is shut out the entire world and play video games for 2-3 weeks straight?<\/em><\/p>\n There were a few things in there that I will address in the post…<\/p>\n Of all the ‘negative’ emotions that us law of attraction people freak out about, I think this one can freak us out the most. This feeling of not wanting anything, not caring if get the things we want anymore, not caring if we even feel happy is triggering that part of us that obviously does still care about all these things, that still wants them very badly, that is still convinced the active ‘wanting’ is somehow a necessary part of the manifesting equation (it’s not…trust me).<\/p>\n And when we are in this state of apathy, it believes that we have basically given up and nothing is going to change. And these conflicting energies can leave us feeling very unsettled.<\/p>\n In my own experience, this blah state would rear its head when I really had been attached to certain things happening, when I was trying a lot harder than I may have realized to control something, when I was glossing over emotions in the name of ‘focusing positively.’<\/p>\n While I may not have been fully aware of the extent of these energies, that didn’t diminish their power, and I would eventually reach a point where I would get triggered by something; and my reaction would make it clear as day as to how I was really feeling and how much resistance I was carrying around in its various forms.<\/p>\n The release would come, I would get sick of the situation, sick of wanting whatever it was, and this neutral state would kick in, with some leanings towards negativity. That’s all fine and good.<\/p>\n Lovely lady had mentioned in her comment that she thinks there must be some emotion she is not dealing with. Often times that is anger and she states she has gotten comfortable with letting that out so what gives?<\/p>\n Obviously it can be different for everyone and perhaps there is some emotion not being expressed. But based on my own experience, there may be another possibility. I have often found hidden emotion wasn’t so much the issue, but rather, not owning up to how I felt about certain things in my life.<\/p>\n There was a reluctance to admit how I was truly feeling about things that were bothering me. Actually admitting something out loud just felt too uncomfortable…it would actually make it real.<\/p>\n On some level I was very well aware of what I was really feeling, but I was good at pushing it down or rationalizing to a point where I made myself believe that wasn’t how I actually felt, and it was just a ‘moment.’<\/p>\n It might be scary to truly admit our marriage isn’t working. Realizing you really hate the job you spent tens of thousands of dollars educating yourself for doesn’t feel great.<\/p>\n You are working really hard to build your online business, all the while realizing you have totally lost your passion for the niche, but the idea of starting over completely would mean all that has come before was a total waste (it’s totally not), and it’s terrifying. That success you crave is going to take even longer than it already has been,( not true actually) and you don’t know if you have it in you.<\/p>\n Sometimes the implications of making the changes we would need to make, or doing what we want to, are really big and scary. We may not be ready to travel that road yet.<\/p>\n All of this ‘stuck’ energy can keep us feeling pretty blah because the ‘blah’ can offer some sort of protection from facing these things. By not caring if we are happy or if we get what we want, means not having to try to change anything.<\/p>\n The desire to feel better and to make all the yuck go away may kick off another cycle that leads us down the road of ‘trying’ really hard to manifest, getting really attached to certain things happening, ‘forcing’ ourselves to feel better, and we break again and go back to ‘blah’ when the pushing gets to be too much once again.<\/p>\n That feeling of not wanting to do anything is one I am very familiar with, and recently, I have been feeling like this quite often. The pull to do less and allow myself the indulgence was really strong and I knew I was being led to it for a reason.<\/p>\n And I have been honoring it, and it’s been working quite well for me. I allow myself to take a nap, read a book or binge-watch a series on Amazon when the mood strikes. When inspiration strikes to do something, I do it. When I don’t feel like doing something, I don’t.<\/p>\n If I felt a pull to write this blog post tomorrow instead of today, I would have. That I typically post on Monday and not Tuesday wouldn’t have mattered one bit. The world wouldn’t have come to an end.<\/p>\n I have a mind too and it fights me on this at times, but I know the real deal, and its proddings affect me less and less over time.<\/p>\n Allowing myself this time to just ‘be’ without any agenda, without feeling like I should be working on my personal development, my blog or whatever else, has given me lots of clarity. Lots of great ideas have been born out of this ‘nothingness’ like my teleclass series I have been doing for the last six weeks.<\/p>\n Seeing certain manifestations come in, it becomes more and more obvious how little a role we really play in bringing out the things we want in our life. The importance of only acting from a space of inspiration becomes clearer and clearer, and confidently saying ‘no’ to uninspired action gets much easier over time.<\/p>\n The key to getting the most out of this ‘nothing’ time is to really go all in when you do allow it. If you are like lovely lady, and you have other things pulling at your time, and you can’t do nothing full-bore for extended periods, allowing yourself to really to enjoy this time, is doubly important.<\/p>\n When you really allow this nothingness, there is a good chance that the times when you are needing to do other things won’t feel as difficult; you won’t feel as resentful. Truly indulging in that time can recharge you. It may help you develop a different perspective on what is happening now, and there will be less resistance to ‘what is.’<\/p>\n There may also be a call to really evaluate our lives now to see if maybe we need to erect some boundaries, be a bit more ‘selfish’ with our time, consider if we are falling victim to the ‘shoulds’ in any way that is making us do things we may not want to do, and the like.<\/p>\n When we are feeling stuck, doing nothing can feel particularly challenging because our action-oriented minds are telling us we need to be figuring out how to get unstuck. We have to put together a plan of attack. We have to take some sort of action to get unstuck.<\/p>\n But from this space, the effective actions probably can’t make their way in. The clarity that will offer you insights into the best actions to take just isn’t there. The solutions can’t be delivered because our energy isn’t a match to them.<\/p>\n While it logically won’t make sense, the ‘doing nothing’ is the best course of action because in that space, you are making some room for the inspired actions, the solutions and the next step to be revealed to you. In the space of doing nothing, you are protecting yourself from the self-sabotage in the form of uninspired actions being taken from a space of complete misalignment with what you want.<\/p>\n As we get more comfortable with doing nothing and stop judging it as being ‘lazy’ or whatever, the benefits of this time will really shine through.<\/p>\n The fear that we’ll never want to do anything again, and our life will just continue to suck because we’ll basically just give up on trying to improve it, will begin to fade, as this nothing time opens the door to all sorts of clarity, insights and manifestations that will reveal the next step and get us unstuck.<\/p>\n The ‘negative’ emotion in and of itself is not what is keeping us stuck and slowing us down…our judgment of it, and resistance to it, can certainly be a key player however, because it intensifies and prolongs it.<\/p>\n The trick to all of this is really honoring how we are feeling, realizing it is just showing us something. We don’t want to judge any state of being as ‘wrong.’ All our emotions have value.<\/p>\n Whatever is happening right now is exactly what is supposed to be happening, and we just have to look for the message. Don’t try too hard to find it though\u2014merely set an intention to have it revealed and just feel whatever you are feeling.<\/p>\n Do what you can to feel better but don’t force it. The allowing of our emotions tends to naturally lead us to a better feeling state as we allow the release of that energy. \u00a0We don’t have to really ‘try’ to do it.<\/p>\n So, that’s that. Hope you enjoyed it.<\/p>\n Your Turn…<\/p>\n What did you think of this post? Anything resonate with you in particular? How do you handle this energy when it shows up in your life? Anything you would add?<\/p>\nWhen You are Just Feeling ‘Blah’ and Don’t Care about Anything<\/h4>\n
Continually Going Back to ‘Blah’ Could Mean….<\/h4>\n
Doing Nothing is Not Actually Doing Nothing…<\/h4>\n
What Really Slows Things Down<\/h4>\n