{"id":3254,"date":"2015-10-05T08:38:23","date_gmt":"2015-10-05T12:38:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=3254"},"modified":"2021-08-02T07:18:35","modified_gmt":"2021-08-02T07:18:35","slug":"law-of-attraction-resistance-freak-out","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/law-of-attraction-resistance-freak-out\/","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction: Releasing Big Resistance May Not Look Like You Think (Avoiding the Freak Out)"},"content":{"rendered":"

The teachings of the law of attraction are quite simple actually, but how the process of aligning with what we want looks in theory, and in practice, can be very, very different. We are not masters of creating our reality and aligning. We have accumulated a lot of ‘stuff’ in the form of limiting beliefs, fears, doubts and what have you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Our minds have been running the show for so long, and they are not just going to acquiesce to this process. Things are happening way beyond<\/b><\/i> its understanding;but that doesn’t stop it one bit from still trying to understand, plan, figure out, draw conclusions based on the data is has access to, etc…<\/span><\/p>\n

The focus on ‘being positive’ can make us freak out any time we aren’t. This idea we are supposed to be thinking about what we want all the time, and visualizing in specific detail really isn’t all that accurate, and can actually slow things down a whole lot. If we are not actively wanting something, our mind thinks we won’t get it, and that doesn’t sit well, not one bit.<\/span><\/p>\n

For anyone who listened to my last podcast on the rollercoaster ride of releasing big resistance, I noted I would likely be putting together a blog post as well on the topic because it’s an important one, and I know that some people are more the reading type, and not big on audio and video content.<\/span><\/p>\n

Though if you do find this topic particularly intriguing I do recommend listening to the podcast<\/a> because me straight talking for 25 minutes will cover a lot more ground than a couple of thousand words will.<\/span><\/p>\n

I was inspired to talk about this topic because I recently had a major resistance release. Something happened that triggered me massively\u2014the event itself was not actually all that big. But my reaction to it sure as hell was.<\/span><\/p>\n

In that moment, it became glaringly obvious that certain things from my past had not really been dealt with; certain feelings and beliefs were much stronger than I had realized. I wasn’t totally shocked at my reaction in that I did have some awareness that some things may not have been totally shifted, but I did not realize how strongly they remained in my energy.<\/span><\/p>\n

That is why it is so important to let yourself have your reactions, no matter how silly, irrational or whatever they seem to your conscious mind. Because the triggering event was not a big occurrence, I could have easily told myself I was overreacting and totally shut it down\u2014and that wouldn’t have been good.<\/span><\/p>\n

I just went with it and I’m glad I did. Something permanently changed within. This doesn’t necessarily mean these beliefs, fears, thoughts and feelings will never show up again\u2014remember we are really never done.<\/span><\/p>\n

We are human and have a mind, and we must make peace with that. But what does change over time is the intensity, the way we respond, our perspective and all that jazz.<\/span><\/p>\n

These big releases are awesome in that we can make big leaps in our energy, but they can be uncomfortable. I think that there can be certain expectations of what this process looks like and what transpires afterwards, and the reality often looks quite different.<\/span><\/p>\n

And we all know what happens when things don’t look like we think they are supposed to\u2014we freak out and think something has gone terribly, terribly wrong. But nothing ever goes wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, here are some thoughts on what can happen in this space, and how to proceed.<\/span><\/p>\n

You Feel Like You Don’t Give a Shit Anymore<\/span><\/h2>\n

This can really freak people out because we think that in order to allow what we want into our lives ,and improve them in the way we want them to be improved, we must be thinking positively about what we want and getting all excited about its eventual arrival pretty much all the time.<\/span><\/p>\n

Our mind has concluded that a sense of wanting is somehow necessary to the process of getting our stuff, and all of a sudden feeling like we don’t even care if we get these things, throws it for a loop big time. It likens this to giving up on getting it, and it doesn’t like that.<\/span><\/p>\n

But feeling like you no longer give a shit after a big resistance release is very, very different from not giving a shit what happens in your life because everything sucks anyway, God hates all of us, the world is a cruel place and you won’t ever get what you want so why even bother wanting anything better at all?<\/span><\/p>\n

If we are honest with ourselves, most of our ‘work’ in manifesting is coming from a place of resistance\u2014we don’t like our current reality and we want all the things we want so we don’t have to experience these these undesirable elements anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n

Obviously we gotta start somewhere and it’s okay to have preferences. But once we have used what we don’t like as a springboard for figuring out what we do, trying to create from this place of resistance will just slow shit down big time, as you have probably experienced personally.<\/span><\/p>\n

Most of the time, we aren’t thinking about what we want from a place of detachment and openness to something even better possibly showing up. We are thinking about it from a place of noticing its absence and feeling badly about ‘what is.’<\/span><\/p>\n

That resistance creates so much<\/b><\/i> energy, so much feeling…there is just so much momentum. And these big releases come when the pain of holding onto all that resistance, and wanting what you want so badly, becomes too much, and you finally let it all come to a head. You just get sick of the wanting, the fear, the doubt, the need to control, the lack of trust, and all that other stuff.<\/span><\/p>\n

And after so much wanting and so much pushing against, it will feel like you don’t give a crap anymore\u2014you don’t care if what you want manifests. You don’t feel as compelled to take the actions you may have been taking that you believed were necessary to get what you want. The passion and enthusiasm might just not be there.<\/span><\/p>\n

But this isn’t a bad thing, not by a long shot. It’s normal to feel this way, because again, much of what you were feeling was the resistance, not the warm, fuzzy stuff. All that energy just dissipated big-time.<\/span><\/p>\n

This doesn’t mean you have given up on what you want, all it means is you have stopped resisting your current reality as much\u2014you’re not fighting against ‘what is’ with so much intensity and fervor.<\/span><\/p>\n

And when we do that, we can let so much in (maybe not immediately.) When we are not as attached to specific manifestations, we open ourselves up to so many things showing up\u2014possibilities our mind did not even see. Things we may have been working so hard to get, just show up, now that we aren’t meddling so much in the process.<\/span><\/p>\n

This detachment from such specific desires allows a variety of things to show up that feel just as good or even better, and we start getting what we have always been after all along\u2014to feel a certain way<\/b><\/i>.<\/span><\/p>\n

You Don’t Feel Great But You Don’t Feel Badly Either<\/span><\/h2>\n

Manifesting what we want doesn’t mean we have to be in this state of manic joy every second\u2014while there may be some people who are truly in that state all the time, I have my doubts this is possible, unless perhaps you are totally removed from a ‘worldly life.’<\/span><\/p>\n

Not from a pessimistic perspective, but from the fact that as humans with a mind that can’t fully understand who we really are and that of which we are capable, a range of emotions (that all have value by the way), and some pretty deep conditioning, always sparking new desires that we may not be a match to, our experience will probably make for a bit more variety in the feeling department.<\/span><\/p>\n

After these big releases, there may be an expectation that you will feel on top of the world, and just move into this higher vibration automatically. And that is totally possible…there will be times when that is exactly what happens.<\/span><\/p>\n

Anything I am talking about here is not necessarily things that will definitely happen to everyone all the time. Everyone’s experience is different. But like I said earlier, many people don’t experience this, and it freaks them out. Hence a post like this.<\/span><\/p>\n

After such a big release, there can be a stage in-between where you have stopped traveling one path but haven’t quite started on the other. You aren’t feeling badly but you don’t necessarily feel all high-energy and enthusiastic either.<\/span><\/p>\n

You may feel kind of nothing, but not that numbness that comes from suppressing strong negative emotion. This nothingness can shift in and of itself. Sometimes you feel a bit apathetic; sometimes you feel neutral; sometimes you just feel at peace, no matter what is happening around you\u2014you aren’t in a state of resisting and judging your current reality.<\/span><\/p>\n

In all honesty, I kind of like this state because our craving for being in those high-energy states constantly causes us quite a bit of distress. When we feel them, and move away from them, our lower energy states feel worse. We can get caught in a nasty cycle of craving and aversion and as the wise Buddha noted\u2014this is the root of our mental suffering.<\/span><\/p>\n

Again, I am not saying it’s not possible to reach that state more frequently\u2014it most certainly is, and as you release more and more on your resistance, and adopt different perspectives on everything that happens to you, you’ll feel that way more of the time.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, if you make the goal to be there all the time<\/b><\/i>, that’s probably going to be very painful. There is nothing wrong with this in-between stage and don’t worry about getting stuck there permanently, where you will never feel passion, excitement or enthusiasm ever again.<\/span><\/p>\n

There is nothing wrong with simply feeling contentment and a sense of peace, of feeling balanced\u2014to me personally, that is the best place to be.<\/span><\/p>\n

There is nothing wrong with not feeling very much of anything\u2014again, there is a difference between numbness caused by severely repressed emotion, and being in a state of non-resistance to your current reality, and not having a strong reaction to what is happening right now, knowing things will be okay.<\/span><\/p>\n

Honor how you are feeling right now. Don’t feel pressure to act if you are not feeling action. Be gentle and kind to yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t get all bent out of shape because you are not feeling super-happy; only engage in your tools if doing so actually makes you feel better\u2014don’t act from a space of resistance, thinking you have to do these things or nothing will change.<\/span><\/p>\n

This time can be very beneficial in helping you define more clearly what you actually want (which is ultimately to feel a certain way) realize there are changes you may want to make in your daily life, business, relationships, etc.. and just gaining more clarity overall.<\/span><\/p>\n

The ultimate key in manifesting is lack of resistance, and in having had this big release, you are contending with much, much less, so it’s all good.<\/span><\/p>\n

Coping with Resistance Aftershocks<\/span><\/h2>\n

Remember what I said about us never really being done with this work, and never being able to just shut off our minds? While you may have released a crap load of resistance, it doesn’t necessarily mean it is all totally gone.<\/span><\/p>\n

And that’s okay. After such a big shift, you may experience some resistance ‘aftershocks’ if you will. That is the residual crap that is coming up to be released as well. Something has really been shaken loose.<\/span><\/p>\n

You may experience sudden surges of emotion. You will likely manifest situations that are the perfect trigger to bring it up, if these manifestations are necessary to to facilitate this.<\/span><\/p>\n

Just breathe into whatever is happening; sit with it. Don’t try to make it go away. Don’t get mad it is there. Be honest with how you are feeling. Don’t shut any of it down. Just cultivate an awareness of what is happening without judgment.<\/span><\/p>\n

The aforementioned in-between state is actually a good one to be in because in this state, you won’t resist the resistance as much\u2014if you got all happy immediately and super-high vibing, you would probably get really pissed when this stuff came up for ‘ruining your good time.’<\/span><\/p>\n

The drop in energy would feel very painful, and you would be much more resistant to examining what is happening and just letting yourself be with it, observe it and process it. You would instead be lamenting that you are no longer feeling great, which will just make you feel worse.<\/span><\/p>\n

You Might Not Have Immediate Manifestations\u2014Nothing Went Wrong<\/span><\/h2>\n

One of the things that really slows down the allowing of what we want into our lives is always being on the lookout for manifestations. We want ‘proof’ what we are doing is ‘working’. We have a hard time feeling better, and are waiting for something to happen, for some reason to feel better.<\/span><\/p>\n

When we have these big releases where we are not actively wanting anything very much, or not feeling much resistance, we will have that tendency to expect these big, huge changes to rain down upon us immediately.<\/span><\/p>\n

And when that doesn’t happen, we feel discouraged. We start focusing on ‘what is’ more strongly again, and we build that resistance right back up.<\/span><\/p>\n

You have to understand that in these moments, there is a lot of ‘rearranging’ of energy if you will. You are in a ‘rebuilding’ phase and in that moment, there is lots of stuff going on behind the scenes. The actual manifestation of something in the physical is the last step in the process.<\/span><\/p>\n

Just because we don’t see something, doesn’t mean nothing is happening\u2014think about a plant. With all the right conditions, it is growing and growing, and eventually it will poke through the soil more fully formed. It just didn’t sprout forth right from a seed.<\/span><\/p>\n

In these moments, you may feel very tempted to move into action, but be very, very careful. If that action is coming from resistance, from the need to make things happen, refrain.<\/span><\/p>\n

If ideas spring forth for your business or whatever, and it feels good to take some sort of action towards that, go for it. But if it doesn’t, hold off, and focus on your inner world\u2014that is where it’s at anyway, and in this state, that will become clearer and clearer, and that the truth that manifesting is all about what we are being and not what we are doing will sink in a bit more deeply.<\/span><\/p>\n

When we take action from a more aligned space, when are are taking actions to create just for the sake of creating, without expecting a certain outcome, oh how magical things are. How easily things come together. So let that alignment come\u2014let the next steps be revealed to you. Don’t try to figure out that next step from that space of resistance,from that space of not wanting to create something better, but to extract yourself from something unwanted.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, that’s it for this post…hope you enjoyed it and I hope you found some nuggets in here that were helpful and provided some clarity and relief that everything is okay. Whatever is happening for you right now is perfect for showing you where you are now, and how to proceed.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your Turn…<\/span><\/h2>\n

What did you think of the post? Are you in this in-between space now? Anything resonate with you in particular? Do you have any advice you would offer? Looking forward to hearing your comments as always.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you want to learn more about law of attraction, you can also find my Making Sense of the Law of Attraction<\/strong> series on Amazon<\/a>. If you are a Kindle Unlimited member, they are free\u2026sweet. And if you aren\u2019t, no worries..they are super-cheap!<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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