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One of the misconceptions about law of attraction is you must get all manically happy immediately or you are royally fucked when it comes to manifesting what you want.<\/span><\/p>\n Sure, you want everything you want because you believe getting it will make you feel good, and since we can only attract into our experience that which we are a match to now energetically, we have to work on feeling good in the present moment, and not insist on maintaining our misery until what we want gets here. That was a mouthful wasn’t it?<\/span><\/p>\n So, yeah, you have to allow yourself to start feeling better no matter what your current reality looks like , no matter ‘what is’ in this present moment.<\/span><\/p>\n But, that doesn’t mean just suppressing all the negativity and pretending it isn’t there. It isn’t about going into denial, and trying to convince yourself you believe all these wonderful beliefs that you really don’t.<\/span><\/p>\n You have to actually genuinely feel better, and that can be a process. If you have been in a depressive funk for the last six months where you have seriously considered jumping off a bridge, you won’t be able to just jump right to a vibration of ‘life is so great, the sun is shining and I’m just so happy to be alive.’<\/span><\/p>\n A lot of people who have started working more consciously with their energy report difficulty in really making shifts in their energy. The negative emotion has such a strong pull, and it is so hard to feel better in the midst of all the unwanted things in their current experience.<\/span><\/p>\n A lot of crap has built up over the years and letting it rise to the surface to be dealt with can be unpleasant. Most of us aren’t very comfortable expressing our negative emotion. We are taught it isn’t appropriate to express it in many cases.<\/span><\/p>\n And this is especially true of anger. It is a nasty, ugly emotion that should be bottled up. We really weren’t taught it was okay to feel angry, and as such, we never learned how to express it constructively.<\/span><\/p>\n Many anger releases are very destructive, and since that is what we tend to see most of the time, this only adds to the idea that anger is bad. Suppressed anger is a major cause of so much turmoil in this world.<\/span><\/p>\n Many people on a spiritual path may feel that they should be past anger and it isn’t an emotion that people operating on a higher level of consciousness should be experiencing. While I am sure there are some people that have managed to achieve this feat, overall I think this is kind of bullshit.<\/span><\/p>\n We can certainly make strides in this area without a doubt, and experience it less often and less intensely, but the idea we should strive to eliminate an emotion completely seems a bit much to me. All emotions have value in that they show us where we are focusing our energy.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Yeah, anger is intense and unpleasant and if we can work through our emotional turmoil without getting to that point, awesome. But that always doesn’t happen and we are<\/b><\/i> angry, plain and simple.<\/span><\/p>\n It is not something to be suppressed. It is something that we have every right to feel and express, we just want to do it in a constructive way.<\/span><\/p>\n There is great value in anger and it can be an incredibly healing emotion…like incredibly, you have no idea.<\/span><\/p>\n You are supremely pissed my friend. It is easy to miss the connection though. Feelings of depression and numbness are quite muted, and your energy may feel kind of thick and heavy. Anger has so much charge to it and feels intense. The energy feels more ‘buzzy’ and quick-moving.<\/span><\/p>\n But that is without a doubt what is happening. There has been so much shit you have been ignoring or stuffing down, deeper and deeper, the anger has retreated to the deeper recesses of your being. But it is still there, alive and well.<\/span><\/p>\n There is<\/b><\/i> a part of you that is aware of it, but to dive in feels absolutely terrifying. The extreme lack of energy that comes with these types of emotional states is also a contributing factor to the continued ignoring and suppressing…you literally don’t have the energy to deal with your feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n If you want to move past these states, the anger release will help you do that like nothing else. You have no idea. But, in order to reap the benefits, you have to be willing to examine what is happening inside. What are you angry about?<\/span><\/p>\n Once you figure that out and let yourself feel it, you will start feeling a lot better. You probably won’t feel great. You’ll open up a few more ‘can of worms’ emotionally speaking, but you’ll open up some energy, and that sense of hopelessness that comes from feeling depressed and numb, will begin to lift.<\/span><\/p>\n In our efforts to better ourselves and be happier and more peaceful, we pick up all sorts of awesome nuggets of truth and wisdom that can completely transform our lives, like learning to cultivate compassion for the people who have hurt us because their acts were borne of their own pain and unhappiness, taking responsibility for our life, and completely owing our feelings and never blaming others for making us feel a certain way.<\/span><\/p>\n But, when it comes to really healing ourselves, and releasing the energies that are interfering with the transformations we want to make, and disallowing what we want to show up in our lives, this shit just isn’t going to help.<\/span><\/p>\n Trying to reach for these perspectives when you are NOWHERE<\/em><\/strong> near them,is just going to shut down a lot of ‘stuff’ that needs to come up, along with the insights and clarity that always accompanies these ‘moments of truth.’<\/span><\/p>\n Anger releases are not the time to try and be all enlightened. This is the time to let out all the shit that you are angry about. It doesn’t matter how petty, irrational, mean or hurtful a thought seems. It doesn’t matter how much you should ‘know better’ than to be angry about some of the things you are angry about.<\/span><\/p>\n This is the time to just let yourself be supremely pissed about all the things about which you are pissed, plain and simple.<\/span><\/p>\n Be mad at your mom for being a shitty parent and making your childhood miserable. Be mad at your ex-boyfriend for leaving you. Be mad that you think your race, religion or sexual orientation has made your life more difficult and has held you back in some way.<\/span><\/p>\n Be mad that you’re broke and miserable, and can’t do any of the things you want to do. Be mad that you know how awesome your products or services are, and that nobody seems to be buying them. Be mad that people who are not as smart or talented as you are so much more successful.<\/span><\/p>\n Be mad that your special needs child wasn’t born ‘normal’ and it totally turned your life upside down. Be mad at your husband for taking terrible care of himself and checking out on you much earlier than expected.<\/span><\/p>\n So this means you don’t necessarily have to confront people that have made you angry in some way. The point of anger release is to cleanse your energy field a bit and facilitate healing.<\/span><\/p>\n How we respond to everything in our life is all about us anyway, and when we really let that truth sink in, we realize the confrontations, the apologies, explanations of why people did what they did, and so on, are not a necessary part of the process.<\/span><\/p>\n Now this isn’t to say there can’t be any benefit to talking with others and letting them know how you feel. It may very well have a variety of positive outcomes, such as healing a relationship that has been fractured or getting a sense of closure from finally saying your piece. But if you are feeling pretty fragile and raw right now, this may not be the best time to do this.<\/span><\/p>\n But if you were to go this route, you have to realize you can’t<\/em><\/strong> make your feeling better dependent on this person responding in a certain way. The apologies, the acknowledgments of your feelings and what have you can certainly make you feel better, and it is understandable to want them, but they may not come.<\/span><\/p>\n If you do feel the urge to confront, discuss and what not, I would highly recommend doing some work on yourself first and getting into a better space mentally and emotionally. Let some of the pain heal. Let some of the resentment fade away.<\/span><\/p>\n The key to anger releases is doing them in a constructive way.<\/span><\/p>\n This means not just blowing up at your husband because he brought the wrong type of peanut butter by accident.<\/span><\/p>\n Like I said earlier, confronting people you are mad at, and totally going ape shit on them, probably won’t feel very healing. You’ll probably just feel worse for a number of reasons, namely beating yourself up for such a ‘non-spiritual’ response and feeling embarrassed.<\/span><\/p>\n And it is crucial that you do your best not to direct this anger at yourself. This is not the time for self-loathing and highlighting your various fuck-ups. Yes, you create your experience, but for a large part of your life, you had no freaking idea this was how it worked, and you weren’t doing it consciously. You had no idea <\/b><\/i>what was going on and what you were doing.<\/span><\/p>\n If you are feeling really angry at other people, some great ways to release that are talking (or yelling) at them as if they were in the room with you, or writing a letter.<\/span><\/p>\n When you feel a build-up, punching the couch cushion or screaming into a pillow can feel really good.<\/span><\/p>\n Let yourself scream and cry. Just let yourself feel whatever you are feeling.<\/span><\/p>\n Now, since you are not used to doing this, these acts may seem really uncomfortable and that’s normal. The releases may be a bit tempered at first because the idea of yelling at your dead father or wailing at the top of your lungs seems like something only a mentally unhinged person would do.<\/span><\/p>\n Sometimes you may want to have an anger release but nothing comes up, and that can feel frustrating. But if it’s there, it will come. Sometimes anger will come up and you’ll have to put a pin in it as it is not the best time to dive in.<\/span><\/p>\n You may have a fear if you open the floodgates, you will totally lose control of your emotions, or release them at inappropriate times. This is not likely to happen. You won’t go all Incredible Hulk during your weekly staff meeting, or tell off the woman in front of you in the grocery store for holding up the line with her insane amount of coupons, no matter how much you would love to.<\/span><\/p>\n There really is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to get in touch with your anger and start letting it out. As long as you are acknowledging it , and it is coming up to the surface to be dealt with, you are on the right track.<\/span><\/p>\n It is important to note that this will not likely be a one and done type process. You may find yourself dealing with these releases multiple times over the course of weeks or even months. New things will happen that will make you feel angry and you’ll deal with them as they pop up.<\/span><\/p>\n The good news is, you don’t have to totally heal and release every last drop before you can start feeling better or attracting better experiences into your life.<\/span><\/p>\n Anger brings us to a place of truth. Anger will break things open like nothing else because in this moment, you are really, truly, admitting how you feel about your life and all the things that have happened that you don’t like.<\/span><\/p>\n It is shining a huge spotlight on the various beliefs that have been holding you back all this time. It will heal you. It will get you unstuck and deliver insane amounts of clarity. Anger is a very normal emotion, and don’t ever think you ‘shouldn’t’ be feeling it or you are less of a spiritual person because you get angry. That is absolute nonsense.<\/span><\/p>\n Now go get pissed….it’ll be good for you.<\/span><\/p>\n What did you think of this post? Do you think suppressed anger may be an issue blocking your energy flow? What are you mad about? Have you been inspired to get in touch with your anger? Looking forward to your thoughts as always.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" One of the misconceptions about law of attraction is you must get all manically happy immediately or you are royally fucked when it comes to manifesting what you want. 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This is Not the Time for Being All Enlightened…<\/span><\/h2>\n
Getting in Touch with Anger is All about You….<\/span><\/h2>\n
Tips for Releasing Anger<\/span><\/h2>\n
In Closing…<\/span><\/h2>\n
Your Turn…<\/span><\/h2>\n