{"id":2798,"date":"2015-05-13T04:48:28","date_gmt":"2015-05-13T08:48:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=2798"},"modified":"2021-08-02T07:04:04","modified_gmt":"2021-08-02T07:04:04","slug":"law-of-attraction-manifesting-mojo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/law-of-attraction-manifesting-mojo\/","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction: Common ‘People Problems’ Screwing Up Your Manifesting Mojo"},"content":{"rendered":"

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When it comes to working with law of attraction, we come to discover a variety of snafus that get in the way of the whole ‘ask and it is given’ thing.<\/span><\/p>\n

There is resistance in the form of fear, doubt and contradictory beliefs.<\/span><\/p>\n

Becoming aware of the process can actually make manifesting more difficult sometimes because we become hyper vigilant of our negativity and freak out about it. Everything we want becomes so precious.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even though we know we aren’t supposed to, we get super-attached to specific outcomes and decide the things we want are exactly what we want, and it has to manifest just like that.<\/span><\/p>\n

Then there are other people\u2014the ones close to us and just ‘society’ in general. For a number of reasons, they get in the way of really shifting our energy and adopting the beliefs that support us in transitioning into who we really want to be and what we really want to have and do.<\/span><\/p>\n

And when I say ‘getting in the way,’ I don’t mean other people actually messing things up for us, because they really can’t. But, that truth can take awhile to sink in, and even the most seasoned manifestors may sometimes find themselves playing the blame game.<\/span><\/p>\n

We’re only human right?<\/span><\/p>\n

And today I want to talk a bit about those various people problems and how to deal more effectively with them so you can keep your energy a bit more stable, dissolve fears and all that good stuff that will make you a match to all the delicious things you want to manifest.<\/span><\/p>\n

People Screwing Up Your Energy<\/span><\/h2>\n

You’re vibing all high, feeling all at one with the Universe, visualizing your little tushy off and cultivating all these warm, fuzzy feelings that embody what you want.<\/span><\/p>\n

Then your husband comes home all in a bad mood, or your mom starts complaining about the ‘1 percenters’ and how the rich are getting rich and the poor are getting poorer.<\/span><\/p>\n

You excitedly start talking about law of attraction, and your sister gives you a look that says she thinks you’re a f*ucking moron,and asks what kids did to attract cancer, or how come if she asks for a million dollars it doesn’t show up in her bank account tomorrow?<\/span><\/p>\n

To say there is a lot of misunderstanding about what law of attraction is about is an understatement if there ever was one, but I digress.<\/span><\/p>\n

And just like that, splat. Your energy takes a nosedive, and you start getting all mad at the person for killing your buzz, which just makes you feel even worse.<\/span><\/p>\n

Thoughts and opinions that contradict LOA get in your head and you start doubting if this easier, more joyful way of creating your reality is actually real or if you’re just deluded.<\/span><\/p>\n

I get it. I know how hard it can be to keep it up energetically when people around you are acting in ways, and saying things, that don’t exactly nurture this higher vibration.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, there are a couple of things we have to keep in mind here.<\/span><\/p>\n

First, we have to take ownership of our feelings and we can’t blame other people for making us feel a certain way. You’ll do it sometimes, make peace with that. We all do. But the more we remember this little nugget, the easier it it to work through these moments.<\/span><\/p>\n

Second, you have to remember that everything in our experience is a big old mirror of what is happening inside of us. Our experiences with other people are no exception. I will repeat that…our experiences with other people are no exception.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your brain will fight you on that one big time, but we have to realize there are many versions of people\u2014no one is ever the exact same way always. There are good moods and bad moods. There are days when people are more optimistic and more pessimistic, so on and so forth.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you want to change your experiences with other people, you can’t look to the outside. You can’t hope they will start acting differently so you can feel better. You have to go within.<\/span><\/p>\n

Now, keep in mind it is highly likely you will never reach a perfect vibration where you never again attract a situation where other people are acting in ways that displease you for as long as you live, and you don’t have to. Sometimes an unpleasant encounter is the best way to bring to your attention something that needs to be addressed to keep moving forward.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t try to become perfect, or working with LOA will become even more frustrating than it already is at times!<\/span><\/p>\n

You may still attract certain experiences, but you’ll handle them better and they usually won’t bother you as much.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, when you realize these encounters are a manifestation of your own energy, you can begin to figure out why you may be attracting these unwanted situations and from there, you can work on reducing them.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you have a lot of doubt about law of attraction, or that what you want is possible, you’ll attract lots of experiences where that doubt is mirrored back to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll talk about LOA with people who won’t resonate, and will tell you how stupid it is to believe something like that.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll talk about what you want with people who will say all sorts of things that make you worry you can’t have it.<\/span><\/p>\n

If after reading this post, there is only room for one nugget of advice in your brain, make sure it’s this one: Don’t talk about law of attraction with people who aren’t interested or don’t believe in it. Don’t talk about your hopes and dreams with anyone but those who will wholeheartedly support them.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you find it difficult to keep your vibration stable because of other people’s negativity, you may have to set some boundaries to protect your energy.<\/span><\/p>\n

This may mean letting your moody husband know you aren’t going to stick around and listen to his rants, or telling your mom you do not want to speak about certain topics.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you start taking more responsibility for your feelings and vibration, you’ll see lots of changes in your interactions with others.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll line up with versions of people that are more compatible with your higher vibe or be less likely to encounter them when they are not; the more you bulldoze through your doubts and fears, the less you will encounter people mirroring them back to you because they are weaker.<\/span><\/p>\n

This whole taking complete responsibility for our feelings and life is really the only way to go if we want to maximize our awesomeness, but it can be an exhausting pain in the ass sometimes, I won’t lie.<\/span><\/p>\n

But it’s worth it, trust me.<\/span><\/p>\n

You Don’t Have to Convince Anyone of Your New Truth or to Buy Your New Story<\/span><\/h2>\n

It is frustrating when you are making all these positive changes in your life, but people still see a version of you that no longer exists, like the helpless baby sister, or the drifter who could never hold down a job for more than a couple of months. They just love telling the stories, or reminding you about how you used to be.<\/span><\/p>\n

It is frustrating when you have made all these changes internally and have this amazing new perspective on life, and other people just aren’t biting. They think your optimistic outlook on life may be a bit naive or you are kind of nutso for indulging in those whole conscious creation thing.<\/span><\/p>\n

You have amassed so much ‘proof’ the law of attraction is real, but that validation from others eludes you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Like I discussed in a post awhile back about being the odd one out<\/a>, it is natural to seek validation from others. It makes us feel good and that we are on the right track. We all have our doubts and insecurities and it can soothe that a bit. It can give us the boost we need to keep powering on when we may feel like giving up.<\/span><\/p>\n

But we can’t make people give it to us. The people we may want it from most are not going to pony up.<\/span><\/p>\n

If we really feel a deep need for certain people\u2014usually family– to recognize and validate this new us, our new story and new belief system, that smacks of us still not fully buying in ourselves.<\/span><\/p>\n

It smacks of us not being fully sure we are doing the right thing and that we need permission to be who we are being and do what we are doing.<\/span><\/p>\n

Again, we have to take ownership of our feelings. We have to make peace with the fact some people may not fully let go of the old version of us and the old stories. And like I said before, the more you shore up your own energy and gain confidence in your beliefs and your path, that will be mirrored back to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t insist on telling a story to people who may not be able to hear it at this moment.<\/span><\/p>\n

Other people may begin to come around, or they simply won’t say things anymore, even if they may still feel the same way, because you are not a match to these encounters.<\/span><\/p>\n

Worrying Other People will Block Your Manifestations<\/span><\/h2>\n

If we are responsible for everything in our reality, that means no one else can get in the way of getting what we want. Awesome. <\/span><\/p>\n

But, our mind really doesn’t see things this way, and arguments can easily be made for how other people have messed things up for us in the past, or can in the future.<\/span><\/p>\n

They did certain things and it impacted us in some way. Your business partner was embezzling money unbeknownst to you. Your co-worker sabotaged your interview for a promotion by making up some story to your boss.<\/span><\/p>\n

Greedy investment bankers and stock brokers totally screwed up the economy and your small business still hasn’t recovered\u2014that is who gets blamed right? I really don’t follow that stuff so my apologies if that is an inaccurate example.<\/span><\/p>\n

You want to manifest more money, and decide to ask for an increase in your salary, but you just found out your company put a freeze on pay raises so there goes that idea. You are trying to raise your money vibe, but your husband just won’t get on board, so how can things get better if he isn’t trying to make things better along with you?<\/span><\/p>\n

But here’s the thing…other people can’t create in our realities EVER. And to remind you again, anything we experience is because we are a match to it somehow. If you had some underlying beliefs that you can’t trust people, that could be reflected back to you in the form of a dishonest business partner or a co-worker screwing you over, for example.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even when your logical mind is making a very convincing argument that other people messed things up for you, or that getting what you want is somehow dependent on someone else doing or not doing something, you have to realize that is not what is really going on.<\/span><\/p>\n

And if you are like most people, this will probably make you a bit mad at first, and again, your mind will step in with some very convincing arguments, and compelling examples, that yes in fact, other people were somehow responsible for unwanted situations in your life, and screw you Kelli for suggesting that this was MY FAULT.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, this isn’t about blame, it’s about responsibility and empowerment. It is about realizing how we have manifested certain things so we can ‘fix’ our energy, and get what we want instead of what we don’t.<\/span><\/p>\n

It is about realizing how awesome it is to know other people can’t keep what we want from us, and we don’t have to rely on them, or hope they act in ways we want them to.<\/span><\/p>\n

Seriously, how wonderful is it to know that you are not at the mercy of other people’s whims or ‘society at large?’<\/span><\/p>\n

If you are still harboring some blame for other people messing things up for you in the past, or are currently worrying about it now, take a moment to examine what is happening inside. It will be a very valuable exercise to help you discover what beliefs and feelings may need some tweaking.<\/span><\/p>\n

There is also a good chance you may be getting too attached to a specific channel or outcome, or you are turning your ‘what’ into the how.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

In Closing…<\/span><\/h2>\n

There are countless things in the ‘big bad world’ that can throw our vibration out of whack, and it certainly would be easier to really shift our energy if we were able to put up some sort of protective shield to keep all the crap out.<\/span><\/p>\n

But we really can’t, save retiring to a mountain top, cave or forest somewhere.<\/span><\/p>\n

The old way of thinking where we hold others responsible for the outcomes in our own life, and place blame, will not die a quick, painless death. It can take a bit to wrap our heads around the fact others can’t create in our reality.<\/span><\/p>\n

But once we let that truth start seeping in, realizations about how you may have attracted situations you are dealing with now, and what may have happened to you in the past, will strike like lightning bolts.<\/span><\/p>\n

Many of the beliefs and feelings that were operating largely below your conscious awareness will rise to the surface and you’ll now know what you are dealing with. You’ll realize you were focusing in a way that didn’t serve you, and that you may have not realized how much you were focusing in that way.<\/span><\/p>\n

You really are in the driver’s seat, and fully claiming that responsibility and power will likely be a gradual process, but as your focus shifts and you start chipping away at the beliefs that are holding you back, you’ll start letting in all sorts of good stuff that will make it even easier to keep making the shifts.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your Turn…<\/span><\/h2>\n

What did you think of this post? Anything resonate with you in particular? Do you have a hard time not letting other people affect your energy? Do you worry other people will stand in the way of what you want? Looking forward to your comments as always!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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