{"id":2425,"date":"2015-02-09T07:10:13","date_gmt":"2015-02-09T12:10:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=2425"},"modified":"2021-07-31T11:00:03","modified_gmt":"2021-07-31T11:00:03","slug":"law-of-attraction-past-present","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/law-of-attraction-past-present\/","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction: Is Your Past Messing with Your Present?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Anyone engaging in any sort of personal development work knows the past can be a real thorn in our sides when it comes to stepping more fully into who we really are, and creating a better life for ourselves.<\/span><\/p>\n

This can be particularly true when it comes to law of attraction\u2014we are doing all sorts of ‘work’ on our vibration in order to become a better match to the things we want. We know we have to start feeling now, how we would feel if we had what we wanted.<\/span><\/p>\n

In theory, this sounds pretty damn easy, but as we all know, in practice, is anything but sometimes. We may have our pure moments of joy and trust here and there (which is very powerful mind you), but find it difficult to sustain these warm fuzzies for any length of time.<\/span><\/p>\n

There is just so much ‘stuff’ happening internally that gets in the way, and while we know our past experience means squat in determining what is possible now and moving forward, actually feeling this truth to the core of our being, is more of a process.<\/span><\/p>\n

We have held a certain view of ourselves for a long time, and we can’t just totally shatter it. We are so used to believing certain things, and thinking certain thoughts, sucking ourselves out of their vortex can feel like a Herculean task at times. So much ‘proof’ has been amassed over the course of our existence, and our mind will never hesitate to play the highlight reel.<\/span><\/p>\n

We spent so long valuing other people’s opinions over our own, suddenly living from a space where we are completely guided by our inner knowing fully and completely, with all our heart, probably won’t happen.<\/span><\/p>\n

If the past is mucking up your present efforts at attracting what you want, you have plenty of company there so try not to feel too badly about it. It is easy to feel like we are the only ones struggling with this whole LOA thing\u2014something that is so painfully simple at its core.<\/span><\/p>\n

Today’s post will discuss some of the most common ways our past can bite us in the ass while we work at this whole manifesting thing.<\/span><\/p>\n

Judging Your Past Actions in Your NOW Vibration<\/span><\/h2>\n

Oh how we judge ourselves about everything, all the time. That inner critic is a constant companion, always ready with a nasty word or two. This judgment is problematic on many fronts..too many to go into here. But, in terms of working with law of attraction, its most insidious effect is making us feel like we don’t deserve good things because of our various screw ups and bad deeds.<\/span><\/p>\n

Over time, we grow and evolve. You are doing your focusing and other techniques like a good little LOA student. Your personal development work has exposed you to all sorts of wonderful ideas that have expanded your consciousness, changed your view of reality and all that good stuff.<\/span><\/p>\n

But the flip side of all of this is the tendency to be all harsh on the old us. We look at our past actions through this higher-vibing lens and think how horrible we were for some of the things we did or how stupid we were to make certain decisions, what a ‘bad’ person we were sometimes, blah, blah, blah. We beat ourselves up for not seeing things that seem glaringly obvious right now.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, at the time, you were just doing whatever made sense to you in terms of trying to ease the pain, get some relief and just feel better. That is always the root of these undesirable actions\u2014we just want the pain to go away, and sometimes the way we accomplish that may not have been the most ideal way. You were operating at a different level of consciousness \u00a0then.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You had really low self-esteem so tearing down others to feel better about yourself may have been a common past-time.<\/span><\/p>\n

You had major self-worth issues, and would sleep with any guy who paid you the slightest bit of attention as means of boosting yourself up, because in those moments, you actually felt desired and wanted.<\/span><\/p>\n

You were basically miserable about every aspect of your life, and just acted like a grade A bitch much of the time.<\/span><\/p>\n

You drowned your sorrows in drugs or alcohol, and hurt a lot of people along the way.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t be so hard on yourself. At the time, this way of being was serving you, and you were just trying to ease the pressure. You just did whatever made you feel better. You are not a bad person, you were a person in pain, and looking for a way out, and nothing more. Easing the pain is always the root of all the ‘bad’ things people do.<\/span><\/p>\n

Forgive yourself. Love yourself. Know the sheer fact you are existing in this realm entitles you to all the goodies we have the power to create. That’s what we are here to do. Our natural state is happiness and love.<\/span><\/p>\n

Being able to forgive ourselves, and show compassion for ourselves, is a huge part of this process. Don’t ever underestimate the importance of doing these things. Don’t roll your eyes at all that ‘self-love’ crap.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Know there is no higher power passing down judgment on you, and withholding the things that will make you happy as some sort of punishment. The Universe is just oozing love and awesomeness, and wants it to trickle down to you in whatever way is most desirable for you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not Fully Owning Your Choices, Actions and Manifestations<\/span><\/h2>\n

You can’t really, fully step into your ability to mold your reality without the willingness to accept full responsibility for your past choices, actions and manifestations. This part is super-fun isn’t it? (sarcasm alert!)<\/span><\/p>\n

This can be hard because people take this to mean ‘getting what you deserved, ‘bringing it on yourself,’ being ‘at fault,’ and this is not what I am talking about. I am talking about owning it\u2014when we fully own things, we put the ball back in our court.<\/span><\/p>\n

We are operating from a space of empowerment rather than disempowerment. We are saying that we are in control of our experience, not anything outside of ourselves. We are not blaming people or circumstances for doing what we did or experiencing what we have experienced.<\/span><\/p>\n

I’ll be the first to say this isn’t always easy, especially if we have been operating from a space of living reactively, and always pointing the finger in any direction but our own.<\/span><\/p>\n

You have to honestly evaluate if you are still abdicating this responsibility, if you have not taken full ownership of your life experience.<\/span><\/p>\n

You have to see if you are still blaming your childhood for the poor decisions, you have made in your adult life and the acts of self-destruction. I get it…things happened that at the time, were beyond your control, that sucked and were unfair. But, you have to be willing to release the story at some point, or you are screwed. Again, I know it’s not easy. But it’s possible, anything is.<\/span><\/p>\n

When we are ‘passing the buck’ when it comes to our past, we can’t learn from these experiences. We cannot see how we may have manifested certain situations, which will make it really difficult to create something different. We can’t shift beliefs effectively.<\/span><\/p>\n

We can’t fully step into our power. If we can’t accept the role we played in creating our past experience, it will be really hard to take the reins attraction-wise moving forward. The same patterns and ways of being will be dominant.<\/span><\/p>\n

Digging Deeper into the Past than Necessary<\/span><\/h2>\n

Ask and it is given\u2014easy peasy. But, for most of us, there is a whole bunch of stuff standing in the way of achieving that sort of faith and trust. Our vibration needs to be cleaned up some, or a lot, depending on what you want, and how much resistance you have around getting it.<\/span><\/p>\n

We have to do a bit of digging to see what is happening internally. Why do we have these blocks? Where did they come from? What happened in our life that caused us to adopt these crappy beliefs in the first place? What have we experienced that makes me feel the way we do about how life works, and formed the view we currently hold of ourselves?<\/span><\/p>\n

So, naturally, we are going to start thinking about all the things that happened to us. Our crappy parents. The bullies that made our youth a living hell. The cheating boyfriends who dumped us.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, while there is certainly value in figuring out the origins of our current pain and other yuck, we really don’t have to go there as much and as deeply as we may think. Sure, all of this stuff started at some point in our past, but we don’t need to justify how we are feeling now.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whatever you feel is valid for the sheer reason you are feeling it. The more we can focus on the present moment, and shifting those beliefs and emotions right in front of us, without always going back to what caused it, the more quickly you can progress. The more you revisit the stories, the more entitled you will feel to feel like you do. And that will make all of the crap much harder to let go of. Your mind will fight you on feeling better because it will continually point out all the reasons you should feel badly. Our mind is messed up like that.<\/span><\/p>\n

Look for the Gifts and Wisdom Inherent in Challenging Circumstances<\/span><\/h2>\n

This is an age old tip, but one that is important, and bears repeating, because we really aren’t too good at doing this most times. Your mind really won’t be on the lookout for how painful things from the past may have served you, and actually shaped you in a positive way. It will cling to the pain, anger, resentments, anxieties, and all that other fun stuff.<\/span><\/p>\n

And while all of that may have been part of the package, I bet it is safe to say there were some nuggets of wisdom, and gifts contained within these unwanted situations. The thing is, you have to be willing to look for them. You have to be willing to adopt a different perspective on what has happened in your past.<\/span><\/p>\n

I’m not telling you to just ‘get over it,’ or to totally eradicate your negative emotions surrounding these situations. I’m simply suggesting you focus a bit more on what may have been gained as a result. Nothing inherently has any meaning..we are the ones who assign it, and decide how we feel about things.<\/span><\/p>\n

I really implore you not to gloss over this piece of advice because doing this can really create amazing shifts. What has been gained from the hard times in your past? I assure you there is something.<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe your own horrible childhood is what shaped your desire to be the best mother ever, and so far you are succeeding on every front. Maybe all that teasing in school really drove you to succeed, and you made an amazing career for yourself. Maybe you lament all the years you lost being mired in a deep depression, but it drove you deep into personal development work, totally changing your outlook on life. Maybe experiencing a tragic event opened your eyes to what is really important in life, or helped you develop more compassion for the pain and suffering of others.<\/span><\/p>\n

Did these situations still suck? Absolutely. Will you still wish they never had happened? Probably. But that doesn’t mean you have to insist on being blind to how they have served you.<\/span><\/p>\n

In Closing…<\/span><\/h2>\n

I know how tough it can be to just release things we have been carrying around for years, things that have played an integral role in shaping who we are, how we view ourselves and what we believe to be true. There is a lot of momentum, and just totally switching gears in favor of being all happy and shiny, without a care in the world, is a pretty big shift. You may feel pressured to make such a leap, but it really isn’t necessary.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, you have to be willing to shift your focus, and release what is no longer serving you. You have to be open to the idea you can change how you view what has happened in your life up until this moment. You don’t have to be a hostage to your past; you can’t be a hostage to your past if you really want to create your reality at max potential. It all starts with a decision..do not underestimate the power of simply making a decision to let it go, and start fresh. It is never too late to do, be and have all you want to…never, ever, ever. Remember you are always after a feeling, and there are countless ways to create said feelings. The past will only matter if you decide it does. Decide today it doesn’t.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your Turn…<\/span><\/h2>\n

What did you think of the post? What resonated with you most? Are you having trouble letting go of the past? Do you think it is interfering with your manifesting? What tips would you give for releasing the past? Looking forward to your comments as always!<\/span><\/p>\n

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