{"id":2417,"date":"2015-02-06T08:33:57","date_gmt":"2015-02-06T13:33:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=2417"},"modified":"2021-07-31T11:01:40","modified_gmt":"2021-07-31T11:01:40","slug":"law-of-attraction-feeling-good","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/law-of-attraction-feeling-good\/","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction: Feeling Good Now When You Just Don’t"},"content":{"rendered":"

The whole idea behind law of attraction is you attract experiences that match your predominant feelings and beliefs as they stand now\u2014sometimes these feelings and beliefs are super obvious, and sometimes we have to think a bit, about why we may have attracted something. But I digress…<\/span><\/p>\n

This means that in order to get whatever it is you want, you have to feel as if you already had it, at least a large majority of the time.<\/span><\/p>\n

This whole feeling good now thing, even though we don’t have what we want, can seem like an unfamiliar way of operating. We are used to feeling crappy because we don’t like how things are now, and it totally makes sense to our brains that we can’t feel better until things change. In fact, we can become very insistent on it, much to our detriment.<\/span><\/p>\n

We constantly notice the absence of what we want in our current reality, and lament it heavily. There is a strong sense of need around whatever we desire, and our mind is very good at telling us we have every right to feel badly, so just keep at it. On some level, we believe all of this is what will lead things to change\u2014we need to make sure our displeasure is known so that something better can come.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, if you have been boning up on law of attraction, you come to know this way of being can pose big problems in the manifesting department.<\/span><\/p>\n

Chances are, your interest in this concept was a result of things not going very swimmingly right now, and a desire to change all of that. You may not be feeling great overall, or in a particular area of your life, and just feeling better even though everything is still the same, sound easy in theory, but as you may see, difficult to do in practice.<\/span><\/p>\n

If the whole ‘feeling good now’ thing isn’t coming so easily to you, don’t feel badly. If you are not feeling great every second, don’t feel badly about that either..it won’t totally clog up the channels of receiving, and you can still let plenty of things in.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, we know in order to attract the things that will make us feel happy, fulfilled, less stressed, purposeful and all that jazz, we have to start feeling better now. Here are some tips to do just that even if there is nothing much in your life to be smiling about.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t Force Yourself from Misery to Manically Happy in One Fell Swoop<\/span><\/h2>\n

When you discover LOA, the idea you can attract all sorts of great things by consciously working with your energy, thoughts, beliefs and feelings, is pretty freaking awesome. From this perspective, anything is possible. You are in the driver’s seat, and nothing outside of you can truly impact your reality. No matter what happened in the past, it means absolutely nothing. Sounds good to me.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, now you are super-aware of your negative thoughts, beliefs and feelings. You are determined to get rid of them as quickly as possible lest your life will continue sucking. And so you work on ‘feeling good now.’ Because of all this emphasis on positive energy, you believe you have to totally rid yourself of all your demons immediately, or nothing better can make its way into your orbit.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, that isn’t how it works, and if you try too hard to shift your energy, you will just get frustrated as hell, and give up eventually. You will determine this attraction stuff is utter bullshit, and just go on as you were, hating life and fearing you won’t get the things you want ever.<\/span><\/p>\n

You have to honor where you are now, and incrementally move towards a better-feeling space. And just to be clear, incrementally doesn’t equate with slow. You can actually start seeing changes relatively quickly even with smaller shifts. You just have to be willing to see these smaller manifestations as proof of this shift, rather than crapping all over them, which is what we tend to do.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, if you are feeling like crap now, admit it. Let yourself feel your feelings. Play around with different thoughts that provide a sense of relief, that take some of the pressure off, that allow you to acknowledge possibilities exist that you may not be able to ascertain with your puny brain.<\/span><\/p>\n

For example, let’s say you absolutely hate your job, and are miserable. You really feel like you can’t quit now, and your most ideal types of jobs don’t seem to be available in your area. Going from this to totally psyching yourself up to land your dream job, and believing without a doubt it exists, will be a pretty big leap. You may be able to ‘get it up’ energetically at this level for a short time, but you are likely to come crashing down, and feel even worse than before.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, instead of doing that, you might be willing to concede your job isn’t as bad as you think it is. You might think about the good things, like it pays your bills, or your awesome work friends. You might be willing to admit you can’t possibly know of every available job out there. You acknowledge something you really like, is out there somewhere currently, or will be created by someone else, and you will manage to line up with it somehow.<\/span><\/p>\n

And, you notice yourself experiencing a shift. You may not feel over the moon. You may not totally shift your perspective on your job. You may not feel out and out good, but you feel better<\/b><\/i>. And that is where it all starts.<\/span><\/p>\n

Once you start feeling better, you will attract better-feeling thoughts. Your energy will raise, and from this higher vibing space, you will begin to attract ideas, inspirations, encounters and all other sorts of goodies that show you what you want is actually possible. Raising your energy becomes easier.<\/span><\/p>\n

Let Yourself Feel Your Negative Emotions<\/span><\/h2>\n

Truly shifting our energy in any real way is not about simply ignoring and suppressing all of our negative thoughts and feelings, and then trying to think happy thoughts. That is just denial, and won’t get you very far. It is important to understand the difference between addressing negative emotion that is already there, and generating negative emotion by turning your attention towards things that make you feel badly, like the doom and gloom financial news when you are trying to build a a successful business.<\/span><\/p>\n

You may worry that letting yourself feel badly will create more negativity, but when you are owning how you feel, no matter what the feeling is, you are just acknowledging something already there.<\/span><\/p>\n

From this point, there are a couple of ways to handle it. If it is something kind of small, you might be able to simply direct your attention elsewhere, and in doing that, will feel better.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, if it is something ‘heavier,’ you probably won’t be able to do that with any real success. You’ll have to do a bit of ‘work’ in identifying what is going on, and working on shifting the beliefs and feelings. This does not mean totally ridding yourself of a belief in one sitting, though it is certainly possible. It simply means doing a bit of emotional detective work, and getting yourself into a better-feeling space, getting closer to ‘big’ you who knows what is really possible for you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Really let yourself feel what you are feeling. This permission will help it flow more easily, and the easier it flows, the more quickly it can leave you. This will help create a sense of relief, a hugely powerful feeling that can really open things up energetically speaking.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>If you are unused to really letting things rip in an emotional sense, this full surrender may feel a bit uncomfortable. You might not let yourself go there fully at this time, and it’s okay. It can be a bit of a process.<\/p>\n

But, there is no such thing as ‘too much’ when it comes to this stuff…really step into the feelings and allow yourself to feel them. Scream, cry, punch a pillow..whatever.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes this dramatic release will be all that is required, but chances are, your mind is going to want a piece of the action. It will want to know why you are feeling this way, and that’s fine. Work with it, don’t fight it. Anything we can do to ensure its cooperation will be of great benefit to us when dabbling in this law of attraction thing.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, you’ll be feeling your emotions and your mind will want to do a bit of digging. When in your past did you feel like you felt now? The memories that come up are an energetic match for your current state, so they are always relevant, even if they don’t seem so. For example, you might come up with a string of incidents in various contexts of your life\u2014work, family, relationships\u2014that have a common theme of not feeling like you are good enough.<\/span><\/p>\n

Once you identify these core beliefs and feelings, it will be easier to keep moving because your mind will feel appeased. In theory, we can just let anything go at anytime that is no longer serving us, but we all know that is not how it usually plays out.<\/span><\/p>\n

From this space, you can begin focusing on what you want. You can begin dispelling the beliefs\u2014one of my favorite ways is listing out the limiting belief and then all the reasons it isn’t true.<\/span><\/p>\n

You will notice that your limiting beliefs tend to be absolutes ….NO ONE loves me, I NEVER get what I want, everyone is ALWAYS taking advantage of me, and so on and so forth. Consciously, you may not have realized that, but like I always like to remind everyone, what is going on underneath the surface is all sorts of crazy.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you can think back to times that refute these absolutes, it is easier to start chipping away at the beliefs, which will then improve things on the feeling front.<\/span><\/p>\n

As for how long this will take, there really is no set answer to that. It might be a few hours, a few days or a few weeks. Your release of one emotion might lead to another popping up, and then you might have to do a bit of work with that one\u2014for example, working with your sadness may trigger some anger.<\/span><\/p>\n

Just do your best to go with the flow, and deal with whatever comes up. Again, if you can just turn your attention elsewhere, and you feel better, that is fine. But, when that isn’t working, don’t be afraid to go where you need to go with the emotions.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whatever Makes You Feel Better is Beneficial..Seriously, No Matter What It Is<\/span><\/h2>\n

There are lots of things that our mind has a hard time accepting when it comes to law of attraction. Let’s face it, it can sound kind of wacky to the uninitiated , or when you first discover it. Even for those of us who have been ‘enthusiasts’ for a long while now still run into issues as we advance.<\/span><\/p>\n

The idea we can get all sorts of stuff by simply feeling good overall, and not paying any specific mind to the actual things we want ,flies in the face of the common paradigm of always ‘keeping your eye on the prize,’ working hard to get what you want, always taking action,etc…<\/span><\/p>\n

There is a part of us that is scared if we take our attention from what we want, we somehow won’t get it. The Universe will assume we don’t want it. But, that is not how it works. Remember…we attract based on what we are feeling now predominantly, so that means we will attract other things that make us feel that same way. So, you will get all sorts of good stuff above and beyond what you want now.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, this means anything<\/b><\/i> you do that makes you feel better is a worthy use of your time, whether it is playing with your new puppy for two hours, prancing around your bedroom in your underwear singing show tunes, or spending a few hours with a good friend having good conversation. It doesn’t matter. This is certainly not the first time I have mentioned this, but it bears repeating because it can be one of the biggest things to trip us up because our mind tends to fight us on this big time<\/b><\/i>.<\/span><\/p>\n

It is telling you that you are being lazy, that you should be focusing on the issue at hand and trying to find some way to ‘fix’ it, that you should be figuring out ‘how’ you are going to get what you want. It is telling you that you must take control and make things happen.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, yeah, just work on feeling good (better) for the sake of feeling good (better.) Don’t always make everything about getting your ‘stuff.’ Your order has been placed-big you and the Universe make an awesome team, and we are really not needed all that much in the equation.<\/span><\/p>\n

We can act when it feels good, but other than that, the thing we need to give our attention to most is getting things right upstairs. That is taking action, that is doing something. You are certainly not doing ‘nothing’ when you are working on shifting your beliefs, and making yourself a better match to the things you want. Not by a long shot.<\/span><\/p>\n

I present you with a proposition…for the next week, make it a point to do at least one thing each day, that really feels good to you, no matter how small, silly or frivolous. Really work on honoring this promise to yourself,and pay attention to what happens..I assure you some sort of ‘proof’ will be presented that shows you are lining up more closely with what you want.<\/span><\/p>\n

In Closing…<\/span><\/h2>\n

Sometimes feeling good really just means feeling better, and that’s totally cool. We all have to start somewhere. When we are honest with ourselves about what is going on inside, and how we are feeling, we will progress much more quickly with shifting our energy, and seeing a change on the outside. The denial and suppression just slows things down. Don’t be scared of the negativity\u2014we really can’t let something go until we embrace it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your Turn…<\/span><\/h2>\n

What did you think of the post? Did any part in particular resonate with you? What tip was the most helpful for your current leg of the journey? What tips would you add? As always, can’t wait for your comments.<\/span><\/p>\n

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