{"id":2406,"date":"2015-02-01T18:27:08","date_gmt":"2015-02-01T23:27:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=2406"},"modified":"2021-07-31T11:02:26","modified_gmt":"2021-07-31T11:02:26","slug":"how-to-build-trust","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/how-to-build-trust\/","title":{"rendered":"Navigating the Unknown: How to Build The Trust You Will Get What You Want"},"content":{"rendered":"

Wouldn’t it be great if we could consult some sort of oracle that would tell us our future, or give us an exact series of steps to take to get from where we are now to where we want to be? How much easier would it be if we could receive some sort of guarantee we would get what we want, allowing us to move forward with total confidence?<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, none of that is really possible. But, if you cultivate the belief you will get what you want, and you learn to trust in the amazing forces that bring us the insights, ideas, solutions, people and other stuff that help our life shape up the way we want it to, you’ll end up where you want to be.<\/span><\/p>\n

There may be some bumps on the road for sure. Your exact vision of what your ideal life looks like may change along the way; things may not look like you think they have to look right now, in order for you to conclude you have gotten what you wanted. But, you are always after a feeling anyway. And if you take the leap, you will end up creating all sorts of great stuff that will give you the feelings you are after, whether it is peace, happiness, fulfillment, purpose or whatever other warm fuzzies you had in mind.<\/span><\/p>\n

It can be hard breaking out of our current circumstances, and moving towards something else. We may not be exactly sure what that something else is. We can’t figure out how it would all come together, and taking that first step can be scary if we can’t see how the whole journey will unfold. <\/span><\/p>\n

We naturally go into planning and figuring out mode, and our puny brain can only come up with a handful of possibilities of how things can come together, when there are actually infinite. Our mind is very good at convincing us if we can’t conceive of a possibility, it must not exist. Your mind means well much of the time, but it can be a real stick in the mud sometimes.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even if we are not exactly enthralled with the state of our life as it is now, it is comfortable and familiar. We’re not completely miserable, so we should just accept our lot now, right? Wrong, wrong a million times wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n

So many fears hold us back from making the changes we want to make, and at the root of it all is the fear it won’t work out. And this fear comes from a lack of trust. We don’t believe we are being supported by some wonderful loving force that will happily serve up anything we want, provided we can let it in.<\/span><\/p>\n

But we are being supported ,I assure you. I have seen it in my own life countless times. A lot of people want to know how I created the life I did for myself, and a huge factor was trusting (at least most of the time!) the things I wanted would come together for me.<\/span><\/p>\n

We think we have to control everything, and make it all happen, and this leads to all sorts of issues, from slowing down our progress to not even bothering to try at all. On one hand, we are controlling everything in the sense we get to decide what we create and where we will put our focus\u2014on the things we want or the things we don’t. But, as far as how that stuff will actually materialize in our experience, we don’t have to do as much as we think. We have to figure out the ‘what’ but the ‘how’ is not of our concern.<\/span><\/p>\n

You have no idea how your life can change, and what you can open yourself up to, when you really begin building that trust you will get what you want. You may not feel it every second, it may be incremental, but so long as it is with you to some degree most of the time, you will start seeing changes in your experience. You will start to believe you can have what you want, and what a great feeling that is.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, like any shift that needs to be made internally, just telling yourself you will start to trust more, and then magically trusting more, may not happen. Your mind will need a bit more than that, and you will need a bit of guidance in adopting this new way of operating.<\/span><\/p>\n

Be Willing to Accept Things Can Come Together Even if You Can’t See How Yet<\/span><\/h2>\n

Like I said before, you may not be able to make the leap from totally being afraid to go after what you want because you are scared you won’t get it, and you can’t logically figure out how it would work out, to just totally trusting 100 percent the Universe has your back.<\/span><\/p>\n

While such a leap would be totally awesome, and I guess technically possible, most of us are going to have too much momentum behind the more limiting beliefs and lack of trust. And the good news is, this dramatic shift is not necessary to move forward.<\/span><\/p>\n

The only thing you need to start is a mere willingness to accept that what you want can come together for you, even if<\/b><\/i> you haven’t a freaking clue what that looks like right now. This acknowledgment is extremely powerful because in that very moment, you can create an internal shift that opens you up to more possibilities, that starts making you a better match for what you want.<\/span><\/p>\n

This willingness can create a sense of relief it isn’t all up to you to bring everything together, that you are not tasked with figuring out every component of your desire.<\/span><\/p>\n

I am sure there have been times in your life when something came to you completely out of the blue, or in a way you would not have expected. Even if it was something small, really think about these moments. If it happened then, it can happen again. And it can happen for anything, no matter how big.<\/span><\/p>\n

Realize Everything that Is Happening is Serving You in Your Journey<\/span><\/h2>\n

So, you have decided to give this trust thing a go, and you have started really allowing yourself to want what you want. You may have set your sights on very specific desires. You may have even taken some steps to move closer towards them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Certain expectations may have been established regarding how things are supposed to unfold and what getting what you want looks like-really<\/b><\/i> try not to do this. It’s hard, I know, but something to work on..you will benefit tremendously<\/b><\/i>.<\/span><\/p>\n

And then, something happens that makes you doubt you can get what you want. You anticipated some sort of result and that is not what happened. You experience something unwanted, and it totally throws you for a loop. Then the panic sets in, and any trust you may have banked, just gets shot to shit.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, here’s the thing..everything that is happening is always serving us in some way. There is always some benefit to be had in regards to ultimately getting where we want to be.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes experiencing something we don’t want helps us get a clearer idea of what we do. Obstacles that pop up can often reveal to us limiting beliefs that may be getting in the way of achieving our goals. Without them having been brought to our attention, we couldn’t address these blocks, and they would continue to hinder our progress.<\/span><\/p>\n

Things we label as ‘bad’ are actually ‘good’ in that they help us get where we want to be more quickly–like unexpectedly getting laid off from your job that you actually didn’t like anyway, and which prompts you to look for something in a field about which you are passionate, or using that as an excuse to take an extended vacation ,where you end up having some life-changing epiphany, that totally alters the course of your life for the better.<\/span><\/p>\n

Like many of you may have read in previous posts, totally losing my sole source of income <\/a>a few years back was one of the best things that ever happened to me. It kind of sucked at the time for sure, but it was the catalyst for really getting into my work with law of attraction on a level I had not previously. I ended up attracting much more lucrative writing opportunities. The clients were great, and the work was easy.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you view things in this light, you will come to see that everything is helping you along in some way. These are not signs you should give up, or what you want just can’t happen.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Banking Some Positive Energy<\/span><\/h2>\n

In order to really cultivate the trust required to stay the course, and make you a match to all you want, you have to build some momentum behind your preferred feelings, thoughts and beliefs. The ones that have been messing with you thus far have a lot of power behind them\u2014it isn’t difficult at all to get into a more negative state. It is familiar. Our mind tends to go there automatically. We never have to deliberately focus our attention to create bad feelings and thoughts\u2014they just pop right in there, and dig in.<\/span><\/p>\n

You may not be used to focusing more positively on a consistent basis. You are used to worry, doubt, anxiety, focusing on what you don’t want, and what you hope doesn’t happen. Yuck, right? And when this is predominant, you will amass plenty of proof that all of this ick is true and valid, but it isn’t.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you shift your focus, your external experience will change. You will start to experience things that reflect these preferred beliefs, thoughts and feelings. You will have some proof there is something to this, and another way is possible. And, this will make the trust grow.<\/span><\/p>\n

And when I talk about focusing more positively, I am not just talking about thinking happy thoughts, or saying affirmations that your mind is outright rejecting before you even finish the sentence. I am not talking about pretending to like things you don’t like, or going into denial.<\/span><\/p>\n

I am talking about actually focusing your attention in way that evokes true positive emotion, that helps you chip away at the beliefs that tell you you can’t have what you want, and nurture the growth of the ones that say you can. I am talking about adopting a different perspective on your current situation, and what you think is possible moving forward.<\/span><\/p>\n

This way of operating will take a bit of practice. Focusing more positively may feel a bit strange at first because you just aren’t used to thinking that way for any sustained period of time. Actually letting yourself believe you can have what you want may be a brand new sensation\u2014pleasant for sure, but again, uncomfortable, because it is new.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, take a few minutes each day to get into that warm, fuzzy space. Think about what you want. Don’t worry about figuring out specifics\u2014it is okay to go more general. Specifics tend to activate the mind, and get us into ‘figuring out’ mode, and remember what I said about the dangers of that mental space.<\/span><\/p>\n

For example, if you are in the midst of opening a new business, just envision yourself talking with your customers or clients. Don’t start thinking about how you are going to market or how you are going to get these people. Think about what constitutes your ideal client or customer, and imagine interacting with those types of people specifically\u2014that will help draw them into your orbit.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t worry about creating movie-like images in your mind if that seems hard\u2014that really isn’t necessary. I am actually not a visual person, and when I do this type of focusing, it is feels more like simply thinking. That’s fine..it is the feeling you want to strengthen\u2014what is actually happening in your head doesn’t matter as much.<\/span><\/p>\n

When this focusing isn’t really feeling great, back off from it. Don’t force yourself to do it. When uncomfortable things pop up, take a moment to examine them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Technically, this focusing really isn’t necessary, it is just a tool. We can create all sorts of things by simply deciding we want them, and then never giving them much thought ever again. I have experienced this plenty of times.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, when it comes to things we really want, and our belief we can get them is pretty weak, we have to work on building some positive momentum and chipping away at the negative. And this deliberate focusing is what will help us create that shift. Like I said before, this deliberate focus will help reshape our external experience, and will allow the trust to flourish, because we will start seeing all sorts of signs that what we want can actually happen for us. Imagine that!<\/span><\/p>\n

In Closing…<\/span><\/h2>\n

The nature of our human minds, the conditioning that we have been exposed to, and a whole bunch of other crap, can certainly make it difficult to operate from this sort of space mentally and emotionally.<\/span><\/p>\n

Looking towards the future, and the unknown, is usually done from a space of fear and worry\u2014our mind automatically goes to all that could go wrong, all the bad things we worry may befall us at some point in the future. When pondering a new experience, we think of all the reasons why we might not like it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Will you experience things you don’t like? Will things happen that you would rather not? Probably. But, there is also lots of great things that can happen too. Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be great. It is okay to put your sights on all the good things that are awaiting you, rather than all the shitstorms that may be brewing in the distance. That is not naive in the least.<\/span><\/p>\n

Put a new spin on the ‘you just never know’ line of thinking. Believe things can come together. Know you are being supported. Realize whatever happens is contributing to your journey in some way. Be willing to release the beliefs, and ways of being, that are no longer serving you. Know you can turn things around at any time, and your experience up until now is not any sort of indicator of what things have to be like from this point on. Trust.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your Turn…<\/span><\/h3>\n

What did you think of this post? Are you struggling with cultivating trust? What do you think is standing in your way? Any part of the post resonate with you in particular? What tips would you give for upping the trust factor?<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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