{"id":2398,"date":"2015-01-30T07:13:27","date_gmt":"2015-01-30T12:13:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=2398"},"modified":"2021-07-31T11:04:22","modified_gmt":"2021-07-31T11:04:22","slug":"how-to-be-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/how-to-be-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Be Yourself when You\u2019re Terrified to Be Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"

So, on this lovely Friday, \u00a0I am pleased to bring you a guest post by my awesome husband Ryan. He is sharing some awesome tips today on how to step into you really are, and exist in that space with as much comfort as possible. He’s one smart dude who knows how to tell a story…enjoy!\u00a0<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t believe that I saw his ding dong.<\/p>\n

The \u201cup in the years\u201d Balinese dude was splayed out on the beach, doing his best Kate Upton impersonation possible.<\/span><\/p>\n

Except he was desnudo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Baring it all in Bali.<\/span><\/p>\n

I had to give him credit; even though I averted my eyes to avoid the full junk experience on the beaches of Jimbaran, Bali, this guy was being himself. And he didn\u2019t give 2 shakes about it either\u2026.to the point where Bali Bob was lazing in the surf, in his full glory, being totally naked.<\/span><\/p>\n

Kelli and Me and Guest Blogging<\/span><\/h2>\n

My wife Kelli \u2013 I like the sound of that \u2013 asked me if I wanted to publish a guest post for her.<\/span><\/p>\n

I gobbled up that opportunity in a heartbeat. <\/span><\/p>\n

Then, the fun began; I thought about her audience, and my style. I thought\u2026.how authentic can I truly be? Can I use the words \u201cding dong\u201d? What would her readers think?<\/span><\/p>\n

I played around with my story line for a while \u2013 ok for like 40 seconds \u2013 and then, I chose a travel experience to flesh out (hahaha, pun). A story for her audience, BUT a story that was mine, that was authentic, that was genuine and that was playful.<\/span><\/p>\n

I am blessed because I\u2019ve been publishing these wacky travel stories over at Blogging from Paradise for a minute. I am largely, authentically, genuinely, myself, over there, and offline too. BUT I know damn well how terrifying it can be, to be yourself, when you\u2019re frightening fearful of:<\/span><\/p>\n

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  • Being criticized<\/span><\/li>\n
  • Being ostracized<\/span><\/li>\n
  • Losing friends<\/span><\/li>\n
  • Losing anything<\/span><\/li>\n
  • Being mortified<\/span><\/li>\n
  • Feeling awkward<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    \u2026\u2026and about 15,004 other low energy, scary emotions you may experience when you\u2019re being\u2026..YOU! Being authentic does get easier and easier though. I promise.<\/span><\/p>\n

    The secret is in studying Bali Bob.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Let it All Hang Out<\/span><\/h2>\n

    Do I need to embellish? Bob let it all hang out. I mean, he took this one to new levels.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Here is this Balinese dude, Mr. Buck Naked, a tiny speck of pepper amongst of sea of Balinese Bule Salt. (\u201cBules\u201d are white folk in Bali, or, just tourists and ex-pats pretty much)<\/span><\/p>\n

    He frankly did not care. Before all us uptight whites with our Western Shame arrived on the Island of the Gods Bali dudes and dudettes used to do a lot of stuff in the buff. It was what it was. <\/span><\/p>\n

    The body is no big deal to the Balinese. Just a vessel. Carrying a spirit. So he gets nekid. Being him. Authentic, Genuine. Not fearing one iota being authentic, too. <\/span><\/p>\n

    You can let it all hang out. Depending on the ordinances of your local town, city or municipality I don\u2019t advise you parade around town naked; although if you do, share the story with me\u2026.I could always use a colorful blog post idea!<\/span><\/p>\n

    But you can let it all hang out by:<\/span><\/p>\n

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    • Letting go friends who criticize you for being authentic, genuine, and flat out, comfortable in your own skin<\/span><\/li>\n
    • Surrounding yourself with authentic, genuine people<\/span><\/li>\n
    • Working on your mindset through meditation and affirmation and visualization, to vibe higher, so you\u2019ll naturally act\u2026well natural (without going au natural in public places I might add)<\/span><\/li>\n
    • Becoming a creative dynamo in your craft of choice (my favorite)<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      \u2026..OK\u2026.so Bali Bob let it all hang out. He was being authentic, without really worrying about being authentic, and because of that he\u2019s become a mini celebrity in certain blogging circles (yes I\u2019ve featured him on Blogging from Paradise).<\/span><\/p>\n