{"id":1508,"date":"2014-12-10T08:35:20","date_gmt":"2014-12-10T13:35:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=1508"},"modified":"2021-08-02T06:42:29","modified_gmt":"2021-08-02T06:42:29","slug":"law-attraction-deal-youre-losing-steam","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/law-attraction-deal-youre-losing-steam\/","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction: How to Deal when You’re Losing Steam"},"content":{"rendered":"

Feeling a bit frustrated with your attracting efforts? Is what you want still not here, and you are starting to doubt this stuff actually works? Is it getting harder and harder to keep feeling good in spite of your ‘reality’ not being quite to your liking? Are you pissed at yourself that you can’t seem to shake the limiting beliefs that you ultimately know aren’t true, but still feel pretty true to you most of the time?<\/span><\/p>\n

Does it feel a bit maddening that you know attracting actually doesn’t technically take any ‘work,’ but that is is often necessary to bust through the deeply-ingrained negative beliefs, yucky feelings and highly distorted self-image we have been carrying around with us for most of our lives? Do you just want to punch your brain for getting in the way of the whole process? If our minds weren’t so insistent on being involved, this attracting thing would be an absolute breeze.<\/span><\/p>\n

Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. I totally know what this is like. I too experience this at times, as I realize there are certain things I want that I am not quite a match to yet, and I get frustrated. I have reached a point where I have had some major breakthroughs energy-wise, and there is a part of me that seems to really be holding on, and trying to keep me ‘small,’ and while I’m pretty much winning this battle, she is quite the formidable opponent.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is a yucky place to be. You read about LOA and it was like a huge weight had been lifted. To realize we don’t have to settle for a life we don’t want, and we can take control by simply working with our energy, and shifting a few beliefs around, is life-changing. There seemed to be so much promise, but things just aren’t coming together, and we feel a huge sense of disappointment.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bad news is, you feel really shitty right now. The good news is, hope is not lost, and these sorts of really intense low times, actually present a tremendous opportunity to clear out a lot of gunk and creates some pretty big shifts.<\/span><\/p>\n

Here are some tips that I hope you will find helpful if you are thinking about throwing in the towel with your manifesting efforts.<\/span><\/p>\n

Admit You’re Not Feeling as Good as You are Claiming<\/span><\/h2>\n

We insist we have overcome certain beliefs and that we have been feeling really good, damn it. What we want just isn’t coming, and we have been doing everything ‘right.’ There must be more to this attraction thing than simply our feelings—other things must still have an impact on whether we get what we want, that has to be the case because I have been feeling great, damn it.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, if we feel that our manifesting has been stunted and not much of anything has been happening\u2014no signs of life that what we want is on its way, we probably haven’t been feeling as good as we have been claiming. We may have given a lot of lip service by telling ourselves we are powerful creators, we can have what we want, blah, blah, blah, but as for actually feeling better<\/b><\/i>…..probably not.<\/span><\/p>\n

It can be hard to admit this, because we mistakenly believe attracting is about shoving the crap to the side, no matter how much it is festering, and trying to ‘think happy thoughts.’ This whole time, there has probably been a whole lot of stuff that has been bothering you, and standing in the way of really manifesting anything of significance, but you just kept glossing over it.<\/span><\/p>\n

If we can admit this to ourselves, we will feel a whole lot better about our current situation. It is really frustrating to think we are doing everything we are supposed to be doing, and not getting the results we want. But, if we can see that we have been doing something ‘wrong,’ and I put that in quotes because I don’t actually mean wrong, that is a whole different story. We can pinpoint what might be screwing things up, and work on fixing it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Step Back from Specific Desires and Just Work on Feeling Better Overall<\/span><\/h2>\n

Manifesting a specific thing actually doesn’t require us to pay it special mind at all…technically, you could never think about the thing you want ever again, and so long as you became a match to receiving it, it was the best representation of what you wanted, and was something you actually<\/b><\/i> wanted, it would show up eventually.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, because we have limiting beliefs surrounding this thing we want to bring into our experience, we usually have to do some work on shifting our energy, and this involves focusing on this thing in one way or another.<\/span><\/p>\n

For example, you would want to engage in visualization, which can be an awesome tool for getting into a good-feeling space, and helping you identify any limiting beliefs\u2014it is good for the latter because thinking about what we want often brings up uncomfortable feelings, and this can help us pinpoint all the reasons we don’t think we can have what we want.<\/span><\/p>\n

Most of us haven’t fully mastered the art of detachment, so that muddies the waters a bit because we feel like we ‘need’ this thing to be happy, or we are frequently noticing its absence. We worry the Universe might forget we want something if we stop thinking about it all the time, and we can’t have that now, so think, think, think we do.<\/span><\/p>\n

We’re doing a lot of work trying to cultivate good feelings around whatever it is we want. If you are feeling really frustrated with this whole law of attraction thing right now, one of the best things you can do is ‘step away from the desire,’ and just work on feeling good overall. Don’t worry, your order has been placed, and shifting your attention away from trying to feel good around this desire specifically to just feeling good overall can do wonders for you. It can ease up some of the pressure, and when you start feeling better overall, you’ll notice all sorts of cool manifestations in all areas of your life. This will boost your faith in LOA, make you feel better, and the better you feel…well, you know how that goes.<\/span><\/p>\n

Take a Break from All the ‘Work’<\/span><\/h2>\n

Here’s the thing about law of attraction…it is always working, always has been, well before you actually became aware of it. Think of all the good things you attracted into your experience before you were consciously working with your energy\u2014chances are, you weren’t doing much. You held some favorable beliefs that supported getting these things and you got them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Like I mentioned earlier, we really don’t have to do anything to attract, but in practice, we usually need to. We have discovered limiting beliefs around certain things we want, and we have to shift them. When we really want bigger and bolder things, things we may have not thought possible before discovering this amazing concept, we have to work on really raising our vibration to a much higher place, and do all we can to feel super-good.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, something that actually requires no effort can take quite a bit..we have to tweak some things before we can step into that role of power manifestor who manages to get a bunch of awesomeness while doing a whole lot of nothing.<\/span><\/p>\n

Chances are, you have been engaging in all sorts of activities, whether it is making vision boards, visualizing, making lists, doing affirmations, etc…, and if you are pissed right now about your lack of movement, it might be a good idea to step back from the ‘work.’ There has been a whole lot of doing, but maybe not a whole lot of ‘being.’ We attract based on what we are, not what we do.<\/span><\/p>\n

These sorts of activities can really make us feel good, and create a sense that we are going to get what we want, but right now, all that stuff probably doesn’t feel good, so back off it. These things are not actually necessary, but merely tools to help you improve your energy, which is the root of creation.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’re Going to Feel Compelled to Act…Be Cognizant of the Drivers<\/span><\/h2>\n

We all know one of the cardinal rules of manifesting is taking inspired action, the kind that feels good and light. All of that work that feels hard, unpleasant and forced is not necessary, but given the ‘no pain no gain’ paradigm that has been deeply ingrained, this mode of thinking, while something that is awesome and we really want to buy into, is not readily accepted by our brains. It just seems too easy. ‘<\/span><\/p>\n

Even though you may be a bit resistant, you do your best to work from a place of inspiration. You try really hard not to do things that don’t make you feel good. You work on not forcing or manipulating circumstances through certain types of action.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, things haven’t been going to your liking, and you wonder if you have been doing enough. This whole ‘feeling good’ and ‘inspired action’ thing may be a bunch of baloney, and it is high time you started doing more…you are going to make<\/b><\/i> shit happen.<\/span><\/p>\n

Be really careful here. Taking action can actually be a very good form of energy work because it can feed into the expectation that we can have what we want…doing something for the sake of ‘doing something’ can actually make us feel a lot better. For example, it might make you feel good to apply for at least one job each day, all the while accepting this job can come through any channel. You are not attached to the idea that you must actively send out applications and resumes, because that is the only way you can land one.<\/span><\/p>\n

The problem is, though, that is usually not the driver when we are in this type of space. We are feeling like crap because we don’t have what we want, and we are acting from a place of fear and doubt\u2014we think that we won’t get what we want unless we take these specific actions, and we determine what we want can only come through a limited number of channels, so we best get to work on forcing our results through them. And, we end up doing a whole bunch of stuff that makes us feel even worse.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, if that urge to start taking a more active role in your manifestations through action is beginning to bubble up, be sure to examine what is driving that. If you are doing it from a space of feeling badly, and you are compelled to do a bunch of stuff that doesn’t feel very good, do you absolute best to resist this urge. If you feel compelled to do certain things because it will actually make you feel better, then go for it. But remember not to get attached to that course of action as being the way what you want will come.<\/span><\/p>\n

Another helpful thing to consider is the idea of just sitting with what is happening for a bit without doing anything. In this space, there is a good chance you will get some intuitive nudges to do certain things, or you will come across information that you will find helpful in dealing with this uncomfortable period, which might serve as inspiration to take certain steps that will be beneficial.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

In Closing….<\/span><\/h2>\n

When we start consciously working with law of attraction, it can be a bit uncomfortable as we become more conscious of our negative thoughts, beliefs and feelings. We have allowed ourselves to want things we may have never allowed ourselves to want; we have let certain possibilities into our orbit that couldn’t make their way in previously. <\/span><\/p>\n

And, having activated all that, the idea of not getting these things can be a real blow. One of my readers made a great observation that once we let ourselves want all this stuff, the life we have now can look a lot less tolerable than it was previously when we were pretending it wasn’t so bad, and we weren’t actively comparing it to some better existence we have cooked up for ourselves. We see the role we have played in our experience up until now, and while it is incredibly empowering to take responsibility, knowing it is only us standing in the way of what we want can be disheartening, and we beat ourselves up way too much.<\/span><\/p>\n

I have said this many times before, and I’ll say it again..be sure to show yourself some compassion when doing this important work of creating your most desired life, and connecting with the powerful creator that lies within. It was lying dormant for a really long time, and it can be a bit of a process to really wield this power with ease.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Your Turn….<\/span><\/h2>\n

What did you think of the post? Anything jump out at you as particularly helpful? Did you see yourself in anything I wrote here? What tips would you give to people who are feeling frustrated with the attraction process? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts so we can have a nice chat.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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