{"id":1298,"date":"2014-10-27T06:30:39","date_gmt":"2014-10-27T10:30:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=1298"},"modified":"2026-02-02T23:07:05","modified_gmt":"2026-02-02T23:07:05","slug":"create-change","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/create-change\/","title":{"rendered":"Onward and Upward: 4 Non-Negotiables to Create the Change You Want"},"content":{"rendered":"

There are lots of ways to go about making positive changes in our lives, and becoming happier. Different strategies and tools resonate with a particular person more strongly than others. Your path is unique, and you have to find what works best for you. But, in my experience, there are certain elements that must be addressed to really form a strong foundation for a successful transition, regardless of who you are now, who you hope to become, and your specific wants and vision. When broken down to their most basic level, the most common blocks to our happiness and highest potential are pretty much the same for everyone. When I gave it some thought, these four stood out the most to me, and I feel that turning out attention towards them specifically can allow us to make some amazing headway and get unstuck.<\/span><\/p>\n

Be Willing to Face The Muck\u2026You Can Handle It<\/span><\/h2>\n

Our brains are very good at distracting us from what is going on inside. It fears we can\u2019t handle all our \u2018stuff\u2019 so it protects us through distraction. We just keeping bouncing from one thought to another, engaging in activities that allow us to escape and turning on the denial when the truth starts to bubble up.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, when things start coming to the surface more frequently, and it is getting harder to continue lying to ourselves, this is actually a good thing because it means we are ready to deal with it. You are much stronger than you give yourself credit for.<\/span><\/p>\n

It can feel really scary to come to terms with how we really feel about our lives and the choices we have made; it can be painful to relive past hurts, resentments and difficult situations from our past. With all this weighing us down, it is no wonder we can feel so paralyzed as to what to do or how to go about making ourselves feel better. We have so much muddying the waters.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is why we usually can\u2019t side step this part of the equation. We have to learn how to release what is weighing us down. We have to be honest about how we are really feeling, and be able to admit we are unhappy. We can\u2019t begin to make any real positive change if we can\u2019t first admit there is something that needs changing in the first place.<\/span><\/p>\n

The good news is, while this process is not exactly pleasant, it doesn\u2019t have to be an exercise in sheer torture. You don\u2019t have to worry about becoming some perfectly balanced person who has released all her demons and imperfections to be happy or make significant changes. Just being honest with yourself about how you truly feel alone can create a huge sense of relief, and a massive shift in your energy.<\/span><\/p>\n

It is possible to turn things around, no matter what you are dealing with now. You don\u2019t have to keep being the way you are because it is how you have always been. The challenging times of your life have certainly shaped you in various ways, and are no doubt a part of the story that is your life, but they don\u2019t have to be THE<\/em><\/strong> story.<\/span><\/p>\n

As hard as these situations may have been, and the damage they have done, it is likely they have served you in many ways. It may not be possible to see that until you have begun to truly face and process them, but it\u2019s true.<\/span><\/p>\n

What in your life is making you unhappy or no longer working for you? What has happened in your past that is still affecting your present? What do you think you can do to begin creating a shift? Are you willing to start telling a different story?<\/span><\/p>\n

Make Up Your Own Mind and Own Who You Are<\/span><\/h2>\n

Your opinions, beliefs and choices are just as valid as anyone else\u2019s<\/em><\/strong>. It is strange how we automatically give more value to those of others. The next time you find yourself doing this, stop and ask yourself why. Why do I think this person\u2019s opinion is more valid than mine? Why do I think this person is right and I am wrong? Why do I think this person may know what is best for me better than I do? Why am I worried about what this person thinks of my opinions, beliefs and choices? What you will discover is a pretty jacked up line of thinking that absolutely holds no validity.<\/span><\/p>\n

All of the inner turmoil we experience when other people challenge us in some way is merely an activation of something already inside of us. Very few people are 1,000 percent confident in their choices and beliefs. We all have our unique blend of insecurities, issues and other \u2018stuff\u2019 that gets in the way of living our lives in a way that makes us happy and makes it difficult to really forge our own path.<\/span><\/p>\n

Without this sort of exploration and questioning, we will continue to suffer needlessly as we continue to put way too much weight on what others think about life in general, our life in particular, what we \u2018should\u2019 be doing, what is \u2018right\u2019 and \u2018wrong\u2019 and what we are supposed to want and what is supposed to make us happy.<\/span><\/p>\n

No one knows you better than yourself, and if how you live your life resonates with your core desires and values, end of story. It doesn\u2019t matter what other people do, say or believe. They have a completely different filter and set of experiences that inform their worldview. It does not apply to you.<\/em><\/strong> It is not relevant to you<\/em><\/strong>. If you can remember all of this when you find someone challenging you in some way, it won\u2019t feel as painful or uncomfortable. You won\u2019t feel as strong an urge to defend yourself, justify your choices, make them understand your point of view or get them to change their minds.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be afraid to be who you really are and do the things you want to do. Shrinking back so you don\u2019t rock the boat with others or to avoid criticism is so not worth it\u2026trust me!<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t Worry about Figuring It All Out Now..Just Focus on Feeling Good<\/span><\/h2>\n

One of the reasons we can become mired down in a bunch of stuff we don\u2019t want is because we never really gave much thought to what we do. It is surprisingly easy to become very disconnected from ourselves. We are good at pushing down our true desires because the fear of not being able to realize them is just too painful. We have been so strongly conditioned to want certain things that thinking about what we truly want can be kind of uncomfortable.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, naturally, when we really start to think about changing, it can trigger a whole lot of anxiety, fear, doubt and other yuck. We see our current situation and it just seems like there would be so much work to do to really turn things around. Oh so many issues that need to be addressed. You may feel a bit confused as to what exactly it is you want, or feel some sort of tremendous pressure to plot out the rest of your life right this second. You feel any decisions you make now have huge implications and you don\u2019t want to \u2018mess up.\u2019\u00a0 This is where the rationalizing about our current circumstances, making plans for ‘someday’ and telling ourselves we will make a move when X,Y or Z happens, comes in. And all of this leads us to do absolutely nothing.
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Stop and take a breath. Step back for a minute and just relax. Don\u2019t look at the whole picture right now. Don\u2019t worry about dealing with every issue on your plate right this second. Don\u2019t think every single think needs to be \u2018fixed\u2019 right now lest you will not get what you want.<\/span><\/p>\n

The best thing you can do is just focus on feeling good right now. What immediate changes can you make that would provide a sense of fulfillment, joy or relief? If you have a specific desire you would like to go after, what is the least scary choice you could make right now that would give you the sense you are moving towards it? Don\u2019t force big, huge changes if they feel like they would be too much for you right now.<\/span><\/p>\n

Right now, there is no change that is \u2018too small.\u2019 Anything you do that raises your energy, makes you feel more optimistic, or motivates you to keep going is a worthy accomplishment. How we feel sets the stage for everything, and the more you just focus on feeling good, the more quickly things will come together for you. From a better feeling space, you will have a clearer idea of your next steps. The journey of changing feels more fun, and less anxiety-inducing. With this higher vibration, you will access ideas and inspiration that was previously unavailable to you in your previous state of mind.<\/span><\/p>\n

How You Feel is Everything—Protect Your \u2018Vibration\u2019 Fiercely<\/span><\/h2>\n

For anyone that is familiar with this blog, you know I am all about law of attraction. I have seen enough in my own life to know there is something to it, and I couldn\u2019t write a post about tips for being happier and making true positive change without stressing the importance of our feelings in directly influencing our reality.<\/span><\/p>\n

How we feel is a key component in this whole process because it determines what kinds of experiences we attract into our lives\u2014our whole external experience is simply a mirror of what is happening inside. Besides a misunderstanding of the concept, knowing this is true on a deeper level, is a major reason why many people get all hot and bothered, and dismiss it as a bunch of baloney. But, I digress.<\/span><\/p>\n

On a non-LOA note, how we feel will influence our choices, and determine whether we follow through on all the awesomeness we hope to create in our lives.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, it is crucial your protect your vibration with all your might. We are exposed to so much during the day, and we are being affected more than we realize. We need to put up some filters, and keep out what will drag us down.<\/span><\/p>\n

Start tuning into how various people, activities, topics of conversation, television shows and any other stimuli make you feel. Do your best to steer clear of things that make you feel badly or reinforce negative beliefs you are trying to shift.<\/span><\/p>\n

If that hearty dose of bad news that you ingest every morning with your breakfast is dragging you down, stop reading or watching it, and replace the activity with something that will put you in a better space energetically right at the start of the day.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you are hoping to attract more money into your life, and you find watching certain reality television shows triggers all sorts of negative beliefs about wealthy people, stop watching them. Continuing to do so will create a lot of internal discord, and situations that will bring you more money won\u2019t be able to cross the threshold of your experience.<\/span><\/p>\n

What situations are creating energetic drags? What can you do to change that? Perhaps you need to scale back on your various commitments. You may need to have some uncomfortable conversations with people, or be willing to admit you can\u2019t do certain things all by yourself anymore, and that you need help. What can you stop doing that you don\u2019t want to do anymore? What are you doing that you feel is \u2018necessary\u2019 but actually isn\u2019t?<\/span><\/p>\n

Again, I can\u2019t stress the importance of this enough. Protect your feelings at all costs. Do the best you can to keep out the crap that weighs you down.<\/span><\/p>\n

I hope you enjoyed this post, and extracted at least one takeaway that can be applied to your own life right now. Please let me know what you think. Which part resonated with you the most? What challenges are you facing in your efforts to change? What other non-negotiables would you add to this? If you are succeeding with your own efforts to change, what are some of your successful strategies? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts so we can have a chat.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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