{"id":1219,"date":"2014-10-08T06:15:46","date_gmt":"2014-10-08T10:15:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=1219"},"modified":"2021-08-02T05:49:10","modified_gmt":"2021-08-02T05:49:10","slug":"moving-towards-what-want-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/moving-towards-what-want-3\/","title":{"rendered":"Take This Life and Shove It: Moving Towards What You Truly Want Part 3"},"content":{"rendered":"

So, here is part 3 of my thoughts on creating awesomeness and moving away from what you no longer want and no longer serves you. Sometimes this road can be bumpy, but remember that at your core, you are a powerful creator, and capable of so much more than you know, so much more than you think is possible. If you consciously apply what I threw down in this little series of posts, even just in bits and pieces at first, you will be moving towards what you truly want in no time.<\/span><\/p>\n

Show Compassion for Yoursel<\/span><\/h2>\n

Often times, we are ridiculously hard on ourselves. We are our own worst critics and that inner voice of ours can be quite the a-hole at times. How we regard ourselves when we \u2018mess up\u2019 or think about our \u2018flaws\u2019, mistakes and failures is never how we would someone else sharing her own experience with us. When talking to another about her struggles and problems, we would be sympathetic, offer encouragement, point out all the good that she has accomplished so far, and remind her of all her awesomeness.<\/span><\/p>\n

When going about your little journey of change, remember to talk to yourself in this manner. When you find yourself struggling with something, and are feeling all down on yourself, stop and think for a minute if you were listening to a dear friend recount this same situation. What do you think you would say to her? Then say it to yourself because this point of view is just as \u2018valid\u2019 as the shitty one that tends to take over when thinking about our own life. It is all a matter of perspective and where we choose to focus our energy.<\/span><\/p>\n

As someone who has devoted my life to this whole personal development path, I know firsthand how detrimental this lack of compassion towards ourselves can be. For a long time, I had this unrealistic idea I would become some perfect person who never messed up and was always happy. And it caused me a lot of suffering, and slowed me down quite a bit. I have made so many amazing changes, but it was slow-going at times. I have plenty of \u2018flaws.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

I have finally realized it’s okay, and I want you to know it’s okay too.<\/span><\/p>\n

It Will Feel Hard Sometimes and That\u2019s Okay<\/span><\/h2>\n

I wish I could tell you that changing your life will be easy, and you will always feel good and excited about it. There will be plenty of this for sure, but depending on the types of changes you are trying to make, it will feel hard sometimes, like really hard\u2026like, hard enough you may wonder if you have it in you, or if it is worth all the crap you are dealing with. This is not because it is inherently difficult, it is simply because of all the blocks we hold within.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, if it is something you really want, and this knowing came from that deep self-reflection that provides us oh-so-many answers, then, yes, it is worth it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Feeling fear or doubt, or the urge to just throw in the towel, is normal. It doesn\u2019t mean you are weak. It doesn\u2019t mean you have made a mistake, or that you are going down the \u2018wrong\u2019 path.<\/span><\/p>\n

When moments like this strike, go back to your why. Evaluate what you have been doing, and see if you need to make any changes to your approach, or if perhaps, you need to tweak your vision a bit.<\/span><\/p>\n

You are still dealing with lots of layers of conditioning that are not conducive to the pursuit of awesomeness, and all this junk will continue to rear its ugly head. And, when you have moments of not feeling great, the floodgates can really open, and you can feel overloaded with all the crap. Every limiting belief, bad memory and criticism rises to the surface.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can feel really low, and the best you can do in these moments is just let yourself feel it. There is value in these trying times\u2014you can learn a lot. You get great practice getting comfortable with being uncomfortable.<\/span><\/p>\n

Acknowledge where you are. Don\u2019t try to force yourself to feel better, and think positively when you feel like garbage. That is just denial and it makes everything worse. What you want to do is work on genuinely feeling better, and reaching for thoughts and actions that support that goal.<\/span><\/p>\n

Get mad, cry, do whatever helps shift the emotion. When we learn to sit with our unpleasantness, and not rail against it, we feel it less intensely. We are in a better position to evaluate it, and extract the wisdom these moments contain.<\/span><\/p>\n

Remember to Celebrate Victories and Give Credit Where Credit is Due<\/span><\/h2>\n

Like you want to remember to have compassion for yourself, you want to remember to celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small, and give yourself credit for all the good you are doing in your efforts, to better yourself, and your life. It is easy to get caught up in where we messed up, the times we wish we would have acted differently, and all that we haven\u2019t managed to do yet.<\/span><\/p>\n

Naturally, our mind will go there sometimes, but we have control over how often, and how intensely. One of the best ways to counteract this tendency is to consciously focus on all the good. You may not think it is a big deal you went a whole week sticking to your exercise or eating plan, after years of slacking off, but guess what? It totally is. So celebrate it and give yourself a nice pat on the back.<\/span><\/p>\n

You may not think it is a big deal you stuck to your goal to mediate for five minutes every morning the last two weeks, because that seems like nothing compared to how long some other people sit, but if you never did it before, that is a huge thing. Give yourself some credit.<\/span><\/p>\n

It might help to keep a little journal where you can write down all the great things you are doing. Read over it on a regular basis to infuse yourself with motivation, and condition your mind to look at yourself in a more positive light.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes You\u2019ll Get off Track.. Just Vow to Go Back<\/span><\/h2>\n

Guess what? You\u2019re not perfect, and sometimes you are going to \u2018mess up.\u2019 When this happens, we tend to get into an all-or-nothing type mindset where we conclude what we want to do is just not possible We are not capable, and we might as well just give up. On an intellectual level, we know this is not true. But, what we are feeling in those very moments is very different, and we can get quite discouraged.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, try to remember you are playing the long game here. You are looking to build a new life, and a new way of being that will stretch over a period of years and years. When you look at it in this light, these hiccups are hardly detrimental, they are just minor bumps, if you decide that is what they are.<\/span><\/p>\n

It is possible you will have lots of starts and stops along the way, and sometimes, you may find yourself straying for an extended amount of time. Then, you may feel an urge to give it another go. Honor that urge and start again. Don\u2019t look back on your past efforts and conclude you aren\u2019t capable, or you\u2019ll just get the same results again. Maybe that will happen, but maybe this will be the time when everything sticks. Eventually you\u2019ll get there if you are serious about changing.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, if you get a bit lazy with your healthy eating efforts, forgive yourself and just keep trying. Every day is a new day to make better food choices. If you vowed you would try to meditate<\/a>, but gave up and haven\u2019t done it in a month, but feel the pull to give it another shot,<\/a> do it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Just always go back to the goal.<\/span><\/p>\n

Hope you enjoyed this little series and that it helped light a fire under your desires. Please let me know what you think in the comments. What are you hoping to create in your own life? Are you sometimes too hard on yourself? What are the great things about you that you sometimes don’t give yourself credit for? What have you accomplished so far in moving towards what you want? Let’s have a chat.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

So, here is part 3 of my thoughts on creating awesomeness and moving away from what you no longer want and no longer serves you. Sometimes this road can be bumpy, but remember that at your core, you are a powerful creator, and capable of so much more than you know, so much more than […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":10853,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8,10],"tags":[4,50,6,80],"class_list":["post-1219","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-living-your-dream","category-making-positive-changes","tag-change","tag-compassion","tag-happiness-2","tag-persistence"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1219","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1219"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1219\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10853"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1219"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1219"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1219"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}