{"id":1033,"date":"2014-09-17T06:00:54","date_gmt":"2014-09-17T10:00:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=1033"},"modified":"2026-02-09T20:46:46","modified_gmt":"2026-02-09T20:46:46","slug":"fear-doubt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/fear-doubt\/","title":{"rendered":"Punching Fear and Doubt in Their Dumb Faces: 6 Tips"},"content":{"rendered":"

As someone who has made some pretty bold choices in her life, I have gotten up close and personal with the less-than-pleasant feelings of fear and doubt. They can be powerful, and easily stop you in your tracks. They can also be quite tricky, and easily convince you really don\u2019t want what you want that much, so you might as well just keep doing what you\u2019ve been doing, well inside your comfort zone. <\/span><\/p>\n

Fear and doubt are the ultimate dream squashers, and make you settle for less than you are capable of having. They keep us stuck in life we really don\u2019t want. We know we can have, and be more, but we shrink back.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, if you want what you want badly enough, you can learn to deal with these little bastards, and charge forward. Here are some ways I have battled these demons and managed to create the exact life I wanted for myself.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, first, check out this video talking a bit more about fear and doubt.<\/span><\/p>\n

Make Friends with Them\u2026It\u2019s Okay They\u2019re There<\/span><\/h2>\n

I know this tip seems to kind of contradict my violent assertion in the title, but it is important to know you don\u2019t have to totally get rid of these feelings to make significant changes in your life. Hey, there may be people out there who have managed to rid themselves of fear and doubt completely, and are 110 percent confident in every move they make.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, I would imagine those people are few and far between; most of us, even the people who have done the most awe-inspiring things, probably felt this duo plenty as they were chugging along towards greatness. In my mind, the only way we would be able to totally rid ourselves of these feelings is being able to see the future and know with 100 percent certainty how a scenario would play out based on a particular decision. And, that isn\u2019t an option available to us.<\/span><\/p>\n

When we accept our negative feelings, something amazing happens. They feel less intense; they stop occupying the forefront of our mind, and fade to the background more quickly. We remove that extra layer of distress that comes from feeling badly and thinking we \u2018shouldn\u2019t\u2019 be feeling these things.<\/span><\/p>\n

Moving from my old life to my current globetrotting freelance writer existence was a really bumpy road at times, and most of those bumps were in the emotional realm. There were plenty of times I felt fearful and doubtful about what I was doing, so much so, I wondered if it was worth the financial struggle, criticism and all that other junk.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, I learned to make friends with these feelings, and not feel hateful towards them, or myself, when I found myself mired in their muck.<\/span><\/p>\n

On an intellectual level, we know it is okay to experience fear and doubt, but on that deeper level of feeling, I think we believe we should only make a move, or that the only sign we are doing the right thing, is the complete absence of these feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t wait for that day, it will probably never come. Don\u2019t expect these feelings to go away once you make your move, they probably won\u2019t. But, it\u2019s okay. It doesn\u2019t mean you are making a mistake.<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

If You\u2019re Being Led by Your Inner Voice, You\u2019re Doing the Right Thing<\/span><\/h2>\n

In case you weren\u2019t aware, there is a part of us that is connected to \u2018all that is.\u2019 It is perfect and completely unblemished by all the crap that comes with being human. This part of us is one smart cookie. It knows what would make us happiest; it knows of all the mysterious forces at work that conspire to aid us in achieving our goals, and\u00a0 getting what we want is a foregone conclusion so long as we allow<\/em><\/strong> it in.<\/span><\/p>\n

All those desires you have, and all the things you strongly value\u2014those are not just random. You are pulled towards them for a reason\u2014they are the clues to who you really are and the things you should be doing. So, if your current efforts were borne of getting it touch with that inner wisdom, and achieving clarity about the things you want to be, do and have, you are on the right track, no two ways about it.<\/span><\/p>\n

My passion for personal development and travel permeates every fiber of my being. When I tuned into what was happening inside, I realized that freedom and living life on my own terms was what I valued most in this world, above anything else.<\/span><\/p>\n

I knew I needed to pursue a life that would allow me to live my passions and my values<\/a>. When you know yourself on those deeper levels, it becomes very clear that any life ,but the one that mirrors these core desires and values, is not acceptable. So, despite all the crap that I went through, I knew I was doing the right thing.<\/span><\/p>\n

When we know ourselves, and are being led by that inner wisdom, we are able to easier handle feelings like fear and doubt\u2014they may throw us for a bit of a loop, and we may wish they would take a hike, but they won\u2019t deter us. We\u2019ll power on in spite of them ,because we know we are doing the right thing for us, that we are exactly where we are meant to be at this point in the journey. <\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Just Because Your Mind Can\u2019t Conceive of a Possibility, Doesn\u2019t Mean It Doesn\u2019t Exist<\/span><\/h2>\n

So, I\u2019m going to get a bit into law of attraction here because in my own experience, understanding what this concept is truly about (which is not just thinking something and making it appear, as many seem to think it means), and consciously applying the principles has changed my life in ways I couldn\u2019t imagine possible.<\/span><\/p>\n

You see, there are infinite ways the things we want can come into our experience, and our little human minds cannot possibly figure them all out. It can\u2019t even come close.<\/em><\/strong> Our natural tendency to focus on \u2018how\u2019 we will get the things we want can be a real dream squasher, and activate fear and doubt like nothing else. Our pea brains start going over possibilities, and can only come up with a limited amount\u2014maybe like three. That\u2019s a lot less than infinite, wouldn\u2019t you say?<\/span><\/p>\n

And, in most cases, these three ways don\u2019t seem possible for one reason or another ,based on your past experience and current circumstances, and you start feeling afraid to want what you want, and doubt it can come to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, so long as you believe what you want can come to you, like on the deepest level, the good old Universe will find a way to make it happen. You will get flashes of inspiration to do certain things and this action moves you closer. You will meet people, and come across opportunities, in the most random of ways. I\u2019m sure you have experienced this in your life at times. Even if it was on a smaller scale, know the same principles are at work all the time, and it can happen for big things too.<\/span><\/p>\n

Our brains can be very douche-like at times, and will work very hard to convince you that if it can\u2019t conceive of a possibility, it must not exist. But, remember it is a big, dirty liar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t Talk to People Who Make You Feel Badly<\/span><\/h2>\n

This is a big one. Most of us aren\u2019t so good we can totally put up a shield and protect ourselves against the criticism, judgment, negativity and fear of other people. Remember what I said earlier about fear and doubt naturally residing within\u2014well even though you kind of want to play nice, you don\u2019t want them hanging around more than necessary. And, nothing will get the party started faster than other people\u2019s negative talk activating this dynamic duo.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, avoid talking about the things you want, and what you are doing to bring them into your experience, with people who make you feel like you can\u2019t have them. Not everyone has a bad intention and is trying to be a jerk\u2014sometimes they \u2018mean well\u2019 and think they are helping protect you from disappointment. They want to make sure you are being \u2018realistic.\u2019 God, I despise that word.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, even when the intentions are \u2018good\u2019, you will get the same end result of feeling badly. Remember that our thoughts and beliefs form the core of our experience\u2014whatever we believe will be true for us.<\/em><\/strong> So, don\u2019t let other people pollute your mind with their negativity and limiting beliefs.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nourish Your Mind with Information that Will Support Pursuit of Your Goals<\/span><\/h2>\n

Unless you were blessed to grow up around people who were really positive, and whose mindsets were very oriented towards success, taking complete responsibility for our lives and all that jazz, you likely have a lot of crappy beliefs that need to be chucked, and replaced with ones that are more conducive to creating awesomeness.<\/span><\/p>\n

The mindset that gave birth to the life I have now, this blog, my good habits and what not, was not one I always had. I wasn\u2019t a particularly negative person, but I never would have become who I am now if I kept thinking how I did. My life wouldn\u2019t have been terrible, but it would not have been anything special. Lots of potential and opportunity would have been wasted.<\/span><\/p>\n

The person I am now evolved over time and was borne from exposure to information that challenged my views, made me think differently and gave me optimism that life could be different and better.<\/span><\/p>\n

Again, what we believe will form the foundation of our experience, and that repeated exposure to more empowering information is the only way to get rid of the old programming. Our negative thoughts, feelings and beliefs have a lot of momentum behind them, and it is very easy to fall back on them. They have to be counteracted and weakened. The only way to do this is tipping the scales towards the \u2018good stuff.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

So, find blogs, books and other mediums that resonate with you, and turn to them frequently.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re Always Moving towards What You Want and Everything is Happening FOR You<\/span><\/h2>\n

So, we\u2019re going to get a bit into law of attraction<\/a> again because I think this sentiment is something that can really help you deal with fear and doubt. When things happen that we interpret as \u2018bad\u2019 it can put us into a tailspin. We worry we are off-track or we won\u2019t accomplish our goals.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, these \u2018bad\u2019 experiences are really not bad at all. Sometimes they are merely showing us where we still may have blocks and limiting beliefs surrounding what we want. Sometimes they happen to help us fine-tune our desire\u2014experiencing things we don\u2019t want help us get clearer on what we do. Sometimes we have no idea we may want something until we experience its opposite.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, as you can see, they are good things because they will help us develop intentions and a state of mind that is more conducive to getting whatever it is we want. We can use these experiences to check-in with what is going on inside. They are just part of the path, not obstacles trying to throw you off it. If you have decided you want something, it is yours for the taking. We just have to do a bit of work on our internal world to help line up with it more quickly.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, that’s my two cents on giving fear and doubt the beat down. Remember, you can have whatever it is you want. What your life has been like up until this point, is in no way an indicator, of what the future holds for you. If you start thinking differently, your life has no choice but to change.<\/span><\/p>\n

I hope you enjoyed this post. Please leave me a comment and know what you think. What fears and doubts are you currently working through? What tips would you give to people to deal with these uncomfortable feelings? Looking forward to your comments and having a chat with you.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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