Law of Attraction and Allowing: 3 Tips for Getting Out of Your Own Way

One of the appeals of working consciously with law of attraction is the idea things we want can come to us with ease and joy. We don’t have to suffer; we don’t have to worry about anyone else being able to mess things up for us. It’s pretty freaking great how the whole system works.

But, as we all know, getting into a space of true allowing can be one of the hardest things to do. We have pesky resistance, issues of deserving, and a bunch of other crap gumming up the works.

It can take a bit of time to really shift our energy. Conscious decisions have to be made to start acting in a way that support our journey, rather than one that hinders it. 

Here are a few tips that I think will be really helpful to get into a space of allowing, a space where great things can happen, provided we can spend more time there on a consistent basis.

To Manifest More Easily, You Have Give Things a Chance to Be Easy

Normally, when we are having some sort of issue, we try to dig in and figure out what’s wrong, find the solution, yada, yada, yada. And if it feels good,go for it.

But, when it doesn’t, which is usually how these scenarios play out, instead of just stepping away, we dig in even further. We keep trying; we keep searching; we keep wracking our brains. Our mind is telling us we have to get this resolved, that we can’t step away until we have secured that which we seek.

But, in this energetic state, we just keep moving further and further away from what we want. The negative momentum builds, the unpleasant feelings intensify, and what we want continues to elude us.

We know from an LOA standpoint we shouldn’t be doing this, but we just can’t seem to help ourselves. We are just so used to operating in this fashion, to believing we have to make things happen, we just can’t pull ourselves away.

And all the while, we are lamenting our inability to manifest as easily as we are told we can We are more than just a little annoyed things aren’t going a bit more smoothly, and asking why hasn’t the Universe presented us with what we need or want. Seriously???

Here’s the thing..if you want to move more easily into a state of allowing, if you want to manifest with greater ease, if you want to be able to pull back more and just let things get taken care of, you have to give the Universe a chance to work its magic.

You have to be willing to stop doing whatever you are doing that is making you feel all shitty, frustrated and anxious. The only way to grow your trust is the willingness to trust in the first place.

If you aren’t willing to do it, the more preferred means of getting results through simply aligning our energy, can’t make its way into your orbit. Remember the Universe can’t defy our vibration.

So, if you are getting annoyed trying to find a certain piece of information on the Internet, get offline and go do something else. In a lighter state, you may feel inspired to visit a certain site, or the perfect search term that brings you exactly what you want will pop into your head.

If you feel like you are about to burst with frustration trying to make a certain change to your blog that just doesn’t seem to be working, step back. When you are feeling a bit better, it is likely some little tweak that you have been overlooking will pop into your head, bringing everything together or you will stumble upon some website that gives you the information needed to fix it.

If it has been a huge pain in the ass trying to coordinate with a vendor to set up some service for your business, release this person, and when you are feeling more motivated, start looking for someone else, knowing you’ll find the perfect person.

If you are working on something for your business from a space completely lacking in inspiration, and it feels sucky and painful, be willing to walk away, knowing that inspiration will strike. And not only will it get done, it will come out a hundred times better than whatever crap you are probably cobbling together now.

If you have a pain in the ass client, get rid of him; you can’t attract better matches that are more pleasant to work with if you keep putting up with difficult people. It will just bring you more of the same.

If you have been forcing yourself to go to bars every weekend so you can ‘put yourself out there’ and meet someone, and you are having a terrible time, stop doing i. Get some momentum going behind the belief you don’t have to do a damn thing to meet this person, that he can come into your life in infinite ways.

Again, if you want things to be easy, if you want to be supported by the Universe to the max, you have be willing to step away from actions and the corresponding energies that contradict this.

Stop Seeing the Value in Suffering

Quite unfortunately, we have learned that in order to get the stuff we want, be happy and achieve success and a sense of accomplishment, we have to work super-hard, suffer and do all sorts of crap we don’t want to do.

And because the belief we will get what we want is buried in there somewhere, plenty of people do achieve great results as a result of all this suffering. So, this paradigm is heavily ingrained, and has a lot of ‘proof’ behind it.

We believe the suffering and hard work makes us more worthy of the eventual success. We have to ‘earn it.’ We have to pay our dues. The willingness to be all manner of miserable for an extended period proves how much we must want it.

Bullshit. We deserve everything we want for the sheer fact we exist,we deserve what we want simply for being, and it has nothing to do with what we are doing. We don’t have to prove anything to anyone.

So, while the idea of getting results primarily through energetic alignment, rather than lots of painful action is music to our ears, we have a hard time truly accepting this, and allowing things to be easy.

After all, we have been taught that it is hard to succeed, and you have to have this iron will and be willing to sacrifice, strain and strive.

Many have a totally disempowering belief some outside force is keeping tabs on all of us. And we maintain some hope it will decide to throw us a bone because we have been working so hard, and we are a good person who deserves it. That at some point, it will decide we have suffered enough, and proven our worth, and voila…we get what we want.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t vibe with any belief that suggests something beyond me is deciding what I can and can’t have, is evaluating whether I deserve something I want, and expects me to go through all sorts of crap to eventually get something that makes me happy.

Since we are so used to this idea that things have to be hard and unpleasant, we usually put our focus on ways to reduce this inevitable suffering, to make it more bearable, rather than consider the crazy idea the suffering doesn’t have to be part of the equation at all. Bonkers, I know.

Imagine the path to what you want could be easy and filled with fun and joy.

Imagine partaking in actions that felt good, and got you more results with less effort.

Imagine discarding the idea being happy requires doing a bunch of stuff that makes you unhappy.

Imagine there is an easier way even if you don’t know exactly what that looks like yet, and allow that sense of relief to wash over you.

What would it be like to be guided more fully by intuition, which again, would help line you up with what you wanted with less effort?

What are you doing right now to get what you want that feel like utter crap?

What value do you see in this suffering?

What could you do right now to make things easier, and extract yourself from the suffering?

If you believe you have made some headway in reducing your suffering, have you actually done that, or merely developed some strategies to make doing what you don’t want to do seem more bearable?

The thing you need to remember is, you can’t keep engaging in the suffering,vowing to release on it when an easier way shows up—again, the Universe can’t defy your vibration.

Things can’t change until you decide you will start doing things another way, that you will stop doing things the painful way.

Be Willing to Concede What You Want is Not the End All Be All

Whatever it is you want now is only a fraction of what is truly possible for you. Our desires at the moment are based on our current vibration and belief system.

Sure, we may have gone a bit bolder knowing what we now know about attraction, but by and large, things tend to be a bit muted, and ultra-specific.

And that’s fine..you don’t want to set your sights on things that you truly can’t see as possible for you now, like making 25 grand a month, when you have yet to make a dime with your new business venture.

Our big issue is we get super-attached to particular manifestations and this messes with our energy big-time. The idea of detaching and just allowing things to flow sounds good. But our mind really is not a big fan of this because it starts to worry that this mode of operating will somehow stop our manifestation from materializing.

Logically, it makes sense to focus on what we want, feel its absence and cultivate this strong sense of need. We feel super strongly things would improve for us if this particular thing were to manifest, and there is no convincing us otherwise.

Meanwhile, this energy totally clogs up the channels of receiving, and we block out oodles of other things that feel just as good as whatever it is we want, and possibly even better.

It is totally fine to want what you want. But, you will be able to allow it, and so many other things that aren’t on your radar right now, in so much more easily, if you can remember this limited view we have based on where we are in this moment energetically speaking.

Start paying attention to all the good things you manifest in all areas of your life—I am not just talking about the smaller manifestations that show you are aligning with a specific desire.

You just want to be happy, no matter what it is you want. And if you can trust big you and the Universe know exactly what you really want, you will relax a lot more about this whole manifesting thing.

And when I say this, I don’t mean this in the sense they know better than you, and will bring what they think is best. I mean they have a deeper knowing about what we truly want than we do.

Expanding on this idea of detaching,I can guarantee you a lot of the things you think you want now are not really what you actually want, but your mind gets in the way and convinces you otherwise.

Money is a perfect example. Yeah, money gives us option, freedom, choice. It provides us with more means to express ourselves. I’m all for financial abundance, don’t get me wrong.

But, as for how much we think we need to be happy, we are likely overestimating it greatly.

We set our sights on arbitrary amounts, like 10,000 a month or making a six-figures annually, thinking this magic amount will make everything perfect or we will finally feel secure.

There are certain things we want and we are convinced more money is the only way, when there are countless other ways we can acquire them. There are countless experiences we can attract that will give us the very same feelings of freedom, living our passion, yada, yada, yada, and money will not even factor into the equation.

Great example: I remember seeing an ad on a house sitting site once about a school in Brazil that was willing to house English speakers for free in exchange for interacting with the students for a few hours a day. They could basically stay for as long as they wanted.

If you were someone thinking about wanting to spend extended time abroad, I bet the first thing you would think about is how much money you would need to do that, and how you don’t have it, how are you going to earn it, and so go all the hindering, worrisome thoughts.

This sort of scenario wouldn’t even occur to you in a million years. A scenario that would allow you to do exactly what you wanted at a fraction of the cost you think is necessary.

Know that so long as you get your vibe up, you’ll get things that feel just like all the good feelings you are cultivating now. You will know whatever happens that appears ‘unwanted’ is just part of the path, and is not any indicator things are going south.

Be willing to concede that what you want is not just what is in your mind now, and what you are truly after goes so much deeper. Be willing to acknowledge you can’t even conceive of all the scenarios that would provide you with the exact feelings you seek, that would be very welcome by you if they were to show up.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again..we are always after feelings.

In Closing…

Like any of the other tips to make your work with law of attraction more effective, will you just be able to start applying these nuggets of wisdom perfectly straight away? Probably not, and that’s okay.

You’ll still find yourself being attached to certain things.

You won’t pull back when things get sucky and you’ll power on, forcing, manipulating and controlling.

There will be a part of you that will make accusations of laziness when you try to opt for the easy path, and you will dive into the suffering because you feel there is at least some guarantee of a result.

But, now that these things have entered your awareness, you will be better at making the shifts. You won’t totally be ruled by old habits..you will begin to formulate new ones. You will start making different decisions.

The momentum will build, the manifestations will come that show you there is something to this way of being. This increases the trust, which makes it easier to apply all the stuff you learn.

You will notice the pain more quickly, and step away before it snowballs. You will become less and less attached to certain manifestations, and that is when they will start coming in with ease ,and in ways your puny brain cannot anticipate.

You will start doing less but get more. The energy of allowing will gain more and more steam, and all sorts of goodies will gravitate towards you.

Your Turn…

What did you think of this post? Anything in particular resonate with you, or seem particularly applicable to your own LOA journey? What do you think is your biggest block to allowing? Do you have any tips or insights to share to get into a space of allowing more consistently?